What is acceptable? In terms of during an argument with your husband/ partner/ spouse.
Answered 2 years ago
My partner came right up into my face space and body space (twice) yelling at me and over me. He also pushed me- with his forearm, not his hand. I honestly don't think he was in the right.
He thinks it's a joke but I'm sure it's not okay to shove someone whilst you are angrily in their face with a raised voice.
He acts like I cause it all and its all me but in my honest heart I know it's not.
Do your husbands push and shove you? Is it alright or am I overreacting?
Thank you everyone, I don't really have anyone to talk to.
Have an answer?
I feel like I'm so isolated and he makes me look crazy like everything is always my fault. Yes, sometimes I am a jerk but other times its him too.
It was so hard to leave - I was a shell of the person I once was. But I knew it was never going to get better even after counselling where he presented himself as this calm, gentle man. I remember looking at him and then the psychologist asking ‘who ARE you’?!! - feeling like I was going crazy!
That is a major red flag. And the fact he thinks it’s a joke. It’s not okay, not normal and not appropriate and you need to make sure he knows this. What he did is assault. Something that could get him charged if you wanted to.
He needs to realise that that behaviour is not okay or you need to get out. That sort of behaviour will only escalate into something much worse.
I don't think it is acceptable.
Ask yourself - if your child did it to another child, would you discipline them for it or would you think the other child deserved it? Probably you'd think your child had overstepped and in anger done something wrong.
It sounds like real bully behaviour to me - added to it that he then blames you for his anger and bad behaviour.
Can you safely address these issues with him? Is counselling an option?