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Does your husband/partner tell you what to wear?
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5 years ago
I dont think he would be game enough to try to tell me what I can and can't wear...
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5 years ago
Well my partner doesn’t want me to wear a Gucci belt. Because it’s $900 and I don’t own one (yet)
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5 years ago
Seems like he might be the smart one
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5 years ago
No my husband knows better
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5 years ago
Not exactly. He tells me what I "can't" wear. Like he's not going to give me money to buy the item of clothing he finds unacceptable. And since I get most of my money from him (I only recently started receiving ftb) he's very capable of controlling everything I buy. One example is, I love a good pair of boots. But he hates them and as such "you're not getting boots". He even took issue with the rain boots I had and made me get rid of them. Fucking rain boots!
Any time we pass a lady wearing a hemline that doesn't go to her knees or below, he points out that tart over there who must be out looking for cock.
Or any girl with brightly coloured hair is apparently trash and probably trying to go behind her mans back or get attention or she must be one of those lesbians who likes to be fisted (his way of saying she's a whore).
So, whilst he usually doesn't explicitly forbid an item of clothing, he'll make sure I know it looks "trashy" or "whorish" or ugly, until I give in.
However, I've been thinking lately, and have realised that I can wear whatever I want and he can lump it. If he wants to call me trashy, or a whore, or accuse me of trying to get attention, I'll be telling him to fuck off. My birthday is coming up and I'll be buying myself some new clothes anyway. My mum will be sending me money to buy myself something and damnit that something will be what I want. Not what he deems acceptable.
Any time we pass a lady wearing a hemline that doesn't go to her knees or below, he points out that tart over there who must be out looking for cock.
Or any girl with brightly coloured hair is apparently trash and probably trying to go behind her mans back or get attention or she must be one of those lesbians who likes to be fisted (his way of saying she's a whore).
So, whilst he usually doesn't explicitly forbid an item of clothing, he'll make sure I know it looks "trashy" or "whorish" or ugly, until I give in.
However, I've been thinking lately, and have realised that I can wear whatever I want and he can lump it. If he wants to call me trashy, or a whore, or accuse me of trying to get attention, I'll be telling him to fuck off. My birthday is coming up and I'll be buying myself some new clothes anyway. My mum will be sending me money to buy myself something and damnit that something will be what I want. Not what he deems acceptable.
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5 years ago
He already sounds very controlling. My husband buys my clothes too, well..... it’s the money he earns that I use to buy them but he never ever puts conditions on it.
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5 years ago
Same here.
Op of this comment, that’s a way to control you just so you know.
Buy yourself boots!
Op of this comment, that’s a way to control you just so you know.
Buy yourself boots!
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5 years ago
Get the hell away from this man. No one can tell you what you can and can't wear. How dare he label other women as tarts and whores. I would 100% guarantee they are a better human than he is.
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5 years ago
That sounds horrible. I couldn't be with someone who spoke about other people like that.
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5 years ago
Absolutely abhorrent. You should defend other women's Choi es by leaving
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5 years ago
Babe your husband is a misogynist. Big hugs to you ❤️
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5 years ago
Thanks for all the concerns everyone. I know he's controlling and I know I shouldn't put up with it. I've already started standing up for myself in other ways. The boots are my next step. I'm not going to leave him. I love him and we have a beautiful life together. I need to be firm in my own boundaries of what I'll take his opinion on and what I won't. It's something I'm working on. But I do appreciate your concerns ladies.
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5 years ago
Jeezus...what a nightmare.
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5 years ago
I personally find it really sad and frustrating how many men think that women make their clothing choices based upon the enjoyment of men (random men out in public, not your husband). No, I did not choose to wear these shorts for your enjoyment and attention I wore them because they are comfortable and I like them. I have only recently become aware that many men actually think every clothing choice is made with the aim of attracting them.
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5 years ago
What the fuck.
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5 years ago
He tells me what clothes he likes but I don’t make my clothing choices on that. I always ask his opinion when I’m shopping anyway. He doesn’t really care what I wear, he’d prefer me with no clothes on anyway 😂
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5 years ago
No. But if I ask his opinion on what I’m wearing he always gives me an honest answer.
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5 years ago
Same
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5 years ago
Me too
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5 years ago
I have zero fashion sense - and would happily leave the house in a paper bag. So hubby does pick clothing for me - and everything he picks is gorgeous and it means I don't have to think about it.
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5 years ago
No and I'm glad coz my husband had no fashion sense.
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5 years ago
No, never but he always asks me what he should wear when we go somewhere.
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5 years ago
Nope