Should I leave my husband?
Answered 3 years ago
I’m pregnant and my husband keeps partying too much. I’ve asked him to calm down, not stop just calm down. But he hasn’t. Tonight he asked if his friends could come over. I said of course but I don’t want anything crazy just because today was the first day feeling upset or emotional In my pregnancy (I’ve been very lucky) and also experiencing Braxton Hicks contractions. This ended up with him PARO. Throwing glass beer bottles around my backyard (I have a dog). I asked him to stop repeatedly. He just called me a bitch. He also lightly spat at me twice. Kept trying to hug me, which results in him falling all over me and knocking me. He’s now passed out in bed. This isn’t a every night issue and sometimes he is great but on weekends it’s becoming more often. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m not a nagger or anything I couldn’t be much more relaxed but his actions are bothering me more and more. I have explained how I feel but he doesn’t listen. He said she excited for the baby, we planned to have together. But he spends more time watching videos than trying to help me or putting in any research into our unborn child. He also refusing to be intimate with me while pregnant. Is this normal or not?
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This was my life and I stayed. It didn’t get any better when my baby was born. I left when my baby was 1.
Everything changed for me when the baby was born. I didn’t want that life for my child.
Wishing you all the best
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I need the money from his parents
He’s the father of your baby
On a serious note you’re a dickhead asking strangers
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Bitch is where the line is crossed no matter what substance was involved.
If you trust him you can of course share custody.
My advice is run now, set a standard for you and your baby.
I’m in the process of leaving, 8 years of putting up with this shit is exhausting.
He sounds like he has zero respect for you. Calling you a bitch? Spitting at you? WTF?
As for the lack of intimacy, yes not unusual at all for a man to feel that way. My husband was afraid of hurting our baby and we didn’t have sex for most of both my pregnancies. Our sex life returned to normal after. Some men just don’t find pregnancy attractive, as hard as that is for the pregnant woman. But it’s fact.
Saying sorry is not enough. Actions speak louder than words. A baby is coming. This involves responsibility. If he doesn’t change I personally,‘would be out of there.
I think you know you deserve better. I'd be leaving & telling him you will not tolerate being spat on, called a bitch & your needs being ignored. No apologies accepted, if he wants another chance he can stop drinking, start listening & do his part with the baby & then come back once he's sorted. If he ever starts again you'll be out. Be prepared for him to choose partying over you, though.
Too many women let themselves get 'trapped' into thinking they shouldn't leave & put up with abuse & being miserable.