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Do you buy people presents and cards if you don’t receive one ?

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My in laws think it’s the right thing to do cause you are showing the other person you’re the bigger person


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2 years ago
I agree with your in laws.
Why are you only doing something in return for something. Isn't this festive period of the year about giving and sharing?
Don't be a scrooge, cards aren't expensive!
I bought a box of 100 cards for $1 after Xmas one year, I send them out each year, and still have some left over for next year. You can't tell me that giving someone a card is really that expensive or that much of a hassle to you. It's the gesture.

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2 years ago
I don't know a lot of people, so say I give out 15 cards, and I think I might get 3 back. It's not a contest.

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2 years ago
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2 years ago
Why be used ?

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2 years ago
How is that being used

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2 years ago
You put time and effort and stamp and the other person doesn’t give a fuck about you

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2 years ago
Again how is that being used?
You're legit just sending a damn card!

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2 years ago
This is all about doing the right thing by what you think.
My kid received birthday presents but some people who we had said, don’t bring a gift to be polite literally didn’t while all the others did. When those kids bdays come up, you think I’m going to their birthdays with or without gifts? Absolutely I’ll be taking a gift. A few $ on a small present I would never go empty handed and I’m not teaching my kids you pick and choose where u take gifts. In reference to cards, I personally can’t be bothered with them. Xmas cards; where people choose to send them I read them, leave them up for a week or two and throw them out. They’re not my thing but it’s personal. I don’t mind receiving them but just because I receive cards I don’t send back as it’s not my thing. I find them entirely different to taking a gift somewhere.

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2 years ago
You told people not to bring a gift but still expected a gift?

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2 years ago
Yeah I got stuck on that bit too. I don't take gifts when the invite says not to. Because I write it on our invites and mean it, we don't need more stuff.

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2 years ago
Well we hadn’t said not to bring one, it’s more of an agreement we have not to need to bring, but In the same group the other half Brought presents along anyway. So when go to bday parties in that same group, can’t just take presents to the ones that Brought and not others. Like I said kids are kids and I’ll be taking a gift regardless of the agreement cos I won’t go to a bday Empty handed

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2 years ago
Cards are bullshit

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2 years ago
Agree

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2 years ago
I give with no expectation of receiving. It works out well that way. I prefer to buy my own stuff anyway. When I do get a gift I am very appreciative but i actually get a lot of happiness of giving.

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2 years ago
If the other person has the same opinion as you, then neither of you will get anything, as you'll both be waiting to get something first 🤷‍♀️ If you want to give something, give it with no expectations.

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2 years ago
I dont do cards and as a family unit we decided to only buy gifts for the children

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2 years ago
It’s not about being the bigger person. It’s about giving a gift because you care about a person in some way and wish to show it. It should never be about what you get in return or how it makes you look to others.

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2 years ago
Why care if they don’t care about you ?

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2 years ago
I wouldn’t think no presents in return means they don’t care. And I wouldn’t care if they didn’t care back. I just don’t expect things in return. I give because I want to, simple as that

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2 years ago
I agree so strongly with this! I give presents because I want to give someone something not because I'm then owed something. How strange.

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2 years ago
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