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A kid at my daughters school kept leaving. His mum attended school with him everyday for weeks. Sat next to him in class. Followed him everywhere. Embarrassed the hell out of him. Took a while but he stopped wagging.
Take everything she owns, except school uniform and pjs. She gets things back when she behaves.
There are a few "adventure" camps out there that would sort her out. Things like Outward Bound, Green Super Camp, Armed for Life, etc. They'll take her out into the middle of nowhere and teach her leadership and self esteem skills and make her miss home. She might even find herself reevaluating her behaviour. I suggest you have a google, and also try and line up a new school for her after. Just like let her know when she gets back its to help her with her fresh start. My parents sent me to one during the middle of my rebellious phase and I came home with a complete new outlook. I changed schools, made better friends and never looked back. I didn't turn into a saint. But the majority of the bullshit stopped. And I wanted better for myself.
A psychologist who specialises in teens is the better option.
From a mother whose daughter left home at 16, there is no punishment you can give at this age that will end well. You will be seen as the nasty bad guy that is trying to ruin her life and the more you try and control her the more she is going to want to break free, and if she does theres not a damn thing you can do about it. I suggest what all the experts tell you not to do, and that is be her friend. Take her out for the day, talk to her like you would your friends. Build her trust. Treat her like an adult and she might just meet the challenge by acting like one.
Go to school with her. Embarrass the hell out of her!!!! If she kicks up a stink, tell her how embarrassing her behaviour is!!! Tell her everybody has had enough!!! Sit with her all day!!!! Make her understand that until her behaviour changes you will attend school with her every damn single day!!! Drop her off at the office, pick her up from the office!!! ! How is she leaving school?? Where is she going?? Is she walking or in a car?? Stalk the car park. Sit there all day if you have too!!!
You need to end this now!!!! Of that doesn’t work, take her to the police station. Get them to talk to her about her silly behaviour & the consequences that will follow for sending nudes.
This should be your number 1 priority right now!!! Good luck.
You will not be wasting the police time by getting them to have a serious conversation with your daughter!!!! It’s eother have this conversation now, or have a conversation when someone she is sending the nudes to files a complaint with the police!!!
Get your daughter back before it is too late!!!
Can I ask... is the school the right one for her? Would a different school be better? There are alternate schools that are for truant or troubled teens which do schooling, life skills, work experience etc and treat the kids as more of an adult than a kid. Also TAFE has options too. I pulled my son out of school at 15 because of behaviour from peer pressure and he just didnt want to be there. I put him in TAFE to finish year 10 and then a 6 month pre apprenticeship. 4 years on he is on his career path with an apprenticeship and doing so well.
Maybe punishment isnt the right thing for your daughter (maybe it is not my place to say) I am just suggesting that her behaviour may be as a result of other issues and changing her schooling or options may assist you and her with the behaviouur issues because I do know it help my son and I.
Take her to the police station. Sending nudes at 15 is classed as distributing child pornography right? Wagging school is illegal? If she’s doing these already, as you say, airy fairy punishments won’t help her.
You really need to nip this in the bud and find something that will work for you. Why don’t you go to the police station while she’s (supposed to be) at school, and get the police to pick her up and take her back to the station. The harsher they are with her maybe it will be better?
But I think the camp ideas are good ones.
Goodluck mate. Sounds like you need it ❤️
Home school. This was how my parents turned me around. They worked opposite shifts so i was never alone. I had zero social contact for 6 months. A computer program does the teaching so even my highschool drop out parents could homeschool. They just had to sit with me to make sure i was doing the work and not chatting with my friends. The mext schook year, i returned to traditional school in a new district and stopped acting like a wild animal.
No one wants the s**t they just want to play with her then f**k her off.
Every guy wants the unicorn the one that is beautiful is hard to get.
Your daughter has fu***d her whole high school experience because even years from now people will still have her naked photos.
Send her to a high school that’s in a whole different town.
Tell her when she is 16 if she wants to go out and not go to school and be a wh**e fine but she ain’t living in your house, simple.
Other then that nothing you can do.
By the sounds of it she’s already fu***d just let her go experience some life and she will have to sort herself out now it’s to late.
I’m sorry this is harsh but not much other advice sorry
I'd be inclined to get her in with a shrink. This kind of behaviour likely isn't occurring out if nowhere. Something has happened in a big way to have her devaluing herself so much, especially as you said she was so sweet a year ago.
This was me when I was that age! I was actually friends with the good girls at school but I still felt pressure to be cool by having sex, sending nudes and sneaking out at night etc. My mum finally made me move schools and at first I absolutely hated her for it, but after not too long at all I got settled, made new friends and started to settle down. Then just as I settled she decided to pull me out and send me back to the old school, claiming she was just doing what I'd asked her too (even though I'd stopped asking). I went back to my old school and everything went right back to how it was before.
If it's normal at your daughters school to send nudes and behave like that then she needs a new school. Give her a hardcore shakeup, it's your only shot. Send her to one of the camps suggested over the holidays and tell her when she gets back she'll have a fresh start at a new school.
Now looking back, I wish my mum would've given me such a hard kick up the arse.
Could you just say it's your life, but what do you plan to do when you fail school? You won't be living here so you need to plan your future. Find out what she will get from centre link and then look at possible places to live, show her what it will be like.