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What are the signs of cheating?
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I just have a 'feeling' - what signs should I look for?
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4 years ago
I’m sorry for you. I know how you feel. I turned into a detective. I checked everything - bank account, credit card, tolls account, opal card, email and phone eventually.
Phone is very telling - won’t leave it anywhere, won’t tell you the password, hides the screen from you, takes it to the toilet and shower and always moves to opposite part of house. If you are upstairs, will move downstairs. If you are in kitchen, will move to lounge etc. You will feel like you are going crazy. You have to decide whether you really want to know. During Covid, I wish I didn’t know. It would have been easier. I know I will be heavily criticised for my opinion but I chose to allow the affair/relationship to continue. We now have a polyamorous marriage. I’m okay with it. It goes against norm but I accept it.
Phone is very telling - won’t leave it anywhere, won’t tell you the password, hides the screen from you, takes it to the toilet and shower and always moves to opposite part of house. If you are upstairs, will move downstairs. If you are in kitchen, will move to lounge etc. You will feel like you are going crazy. You have to decide whether you really want to know. During Covid, I wish I didn’t know. It would have been easier. I know I will be heavily criticised for my opinion but I chose to allow the affair/relationship to continue. We now have a polyamorous marriage. I’m okay with it. It goes against norm but I accept it.
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4 years ago
Oh yeah FBI got nothing on a girl who's being cheated on!
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4 years ago
How on earth do you cope with constantly being " second best " ? And knowing you will eventually be fully dumped for his preferred new one ? My ex was doing the same, (while I was pregnant), and suggesting an open marriage, but it was all about him being able to openly cheat. He was never prepared to look after the kids for me to go out. All freedom for him, and none for me. Best thing I ever did was leave him.
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4 years ago
People will cheat especially men, you can’t stop them.
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4 years ago
Not true that most men cheat.
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4 years ago
Change in appearance, change in diet sudden caring about how they look and hygiene. Staying close thlo their phone and taking calls outside. Hiding their phone and acting secretive. Working late or weekends.
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4 years ago
My ex turned his phone face down. There were other things bit this stood out to me.
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4 years ago
Mine changed his password and stopped letting me use his phone to make calls. And when his mums name used to be saved as "mum", suddenly he'd gets alerts saying msg from "mumma p" but tried to have content hidden. Then when I called him out on it (there was other stuff) of course i was paranoid and a stalker and mentally ill. Tried to tell me his mum had two phones. Got seen by our friends out with a girl,told me it was his cousin and I was mentally ill for thinking anything suspicious.
Why don't people just leave? He was saying we should buy a house, get married etc etc and telling her that he told me it was over and I had to move on. FYI he definitely did not ever say that to me ever!
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Why don't people just leave? He was saying we should buy a house, get married etc etc and telling her that he told me it was over and I had to move on. FYI he definitely did not ever say that to me ever!
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4 years ago
Mine turned his phone upside down. I used to drive myself to my weekend job but he suddenly started offering to give me a ride. He was lying to our kids saying he had to go to Bunnings but would drop me at work then go take her out for lunch. He was angry at us all the time and never was before. Suddenly all the things that were ok before were not ok. Eg, he wanted me to work part time so I could be home for the kids. Then he was yelling at me for not finding a full time job. Working back late, going on early. Could never get through to him on his phone. I think you should just trust your gut.
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4 years ago
You get moved to the friend zone. The phone will be on silent and alerts will be hidden so they don’t show up on the locked screen. Your partner will offer to run all sorts of errands so they can get out of the house to call or text etc.
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4 years ago
Guilty penis
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4 years ago
Distant
Disconnected
Phone glued to hand
Phone turned face down when you’re in room
Sudden overtime at work
Extra effort in grooming and presentation
Unexplained expenses. Eg: $500 withdrawn from account but no evidence what it went on
Check internet history
Often snappy for no reason
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Disconnected
Phone glued to hand
Phone turned face down when you’re in room
Sudden overtime at work
Extra effort in grooming and presentation
Unexplained expenses. Eg: $500 withdrawn from account but no evidence what it went on
Check internet history
Often snappy for no reason
I’m sure the others can add to the list
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4 years ago
Agree with all this. Id also add constantly shitty, pissed off, annoyed with you, bullshit but slightly plausible stiries when you question him about anything (because you want to believe what he says). If you're not just a jealous nutcase, you know, you know you know you, your gut will tell you, but you just hang onti that hope that you're wrong. Once hes caught or tells you etc its almost a relief or vindication because you realise you did know and aren't going crazy. Thats how i felt anyway....