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Exwife holding kids hostage in a do as I say or else ...
Answered 4 years ago
Had a smallbreak from the kids due to covid, work schedule and restrictions. Trying to keep kids safe was the priority. Stayed in touch daily on phone and video app. Can start back with the parenting plan next week. Sent a screen shot of the calendar to the exwife with just the kids routine in it. She is demanding access to my personal calendar to be able to edit or she is refusing to bring kids. How do you deal with that? Seems petty to me she would even suggest such a thing and hold the kids hostage.
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4 years ago
Get all conversation in email, so you can prove it later in court meetings if need to be
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4 years ago
I'd love to see her explain that to a judge. "Yeah I refused to give the kids to him because he wouldn't allow me access to his personal calendar".
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4 years ago
Is this like a gmail calender cos I'd make a new one and have nothing in my schedule except the kids stuff 😂
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4 years ago
So I’ve done that. Seemed the path of least resistance. She can’t add change or edit anything but she can see the shared care arrangements as outlined in the parenting plan. It says in our current parenting plan there needs to be discussion and an ok from both parents before anything is changed.
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4 years ago
That agreement is redic. What happens if something pops up? Unexpected visitor? U meet someone else? It has to be practicable
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4 years ago
If she is happy with this calendar are you able to import it to another calendar that she doesn’t have access and then add your own life around that? There will be less chance of random things happening then and so what if friends pop by whilst you have the kids that’s part of life.
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4 years ago
She is being a dick but not exactly holding them hostage
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4 years ago
Your arrangement needs to change. Sorry but unless they arevery young kids change and grow and routines change d aiky nothing stays the same. What happens in ur time is none of her business. She is controlling you through the kids which is also domestic violence and you need to get it stopped. Do not show her ur calender go to courts for contravention. Call police qhen she refused to comply with orders they can assist you in picking up the kids.
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4 years ago
Go to the police or courts
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4 years ago
What will police do?
Been to court and have a parenting plan.
Been to court and have a parenting plan.
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4 years ago
Re apply to court for contravention of the order and seek orders. Tell the court you satisfy rice v asplund (case the court is formulated on to state change is enough to change!) seek fairness and have her held accountable. I would see a lawyer immediately or apply immediately. Do not wait the court believes waiting is a sign of not caring
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4 years ago
You tell her your personal calendar is exactly that PERSONAL and she has no right to throw such demands around. It should be sufficient enough that you sent through a schedule that outlines the kids routine and your availability to see them. Co-parenting and the plan you have in place does not allow her access to your life outside of these terms. Stand your ground! I’m sorry you have to deal with such a childish control freak.