Feeling fat & horrible
Answered 3 years ago
I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant and hubby keeps calling me fat, he has said as soon as the doc gives the ok - he'll hire a personal trainer to help me lose weight, if I get back down to 50kg and maintain (after the birth of my 1 year old my normal weight is 65kg, currently 74kg pregnant) hubby will buy me a whole new designer wardrobe as a reward.
This makes me feel sooooo shit!
The last time we had sex I FELL PREGNANT, he hasn't touched me since, everytime I initiate he tells me he's just had a wank in the shower - meanwhile I'm usually cooking dinner and/or feeding our toddler.
Due to SEVERE back pain I can barely stand upright let alone walk properly, I constantly have my toddler hanging off me screaming (teething) I can't sleep from the back pain, hubby talks in his sleep, toddler wakes, dogs need to go outside, I have incredible heartburn, restless legs, need to pee ALL THE TIME and when I look at myself in the mirror I only see a tired old fat hag and its about to get worse after I give birth!
Hubby works 14-18hr days running our business so I have to do everything else and do all the bookwork/payroll. I have not a bit of energy left and I'm freaking out about having 2 under 2 and how it's going to affect me, my body and my marriage.
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Again, the problem is your husband. Im not saying we might not want to lose a little weight here or there, but you're all confused on priorities. Even if you get to this weight, the goalposts will change and it will be something else silly to distract yoyr husband with. He is the problem
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It's about how horrible his expectations are. I'm definitely not focused on losing weight - I want to enjoy time my children.
At the same time, I feel completely devastated that I look at myself and find a totally different person looking back.
If you want to lose weight, do if for yourself. Not because of him. What a despicable excuse for a human being.