Desperate for alone time
Answered 2 years ago
I'm always loved alone time,it's the only time I'm happy, relaxed and content.Nobody seems to understand, even my psychologist doesn't as I've tried to explain over the years.Im really struggling right now as my young kids are home, adult daughter and partner as they lost jobs, husband seems to always be around as he does shift work AND wants more sex of late! I'm still working as essential worker and my job is in a communal office helping people! My house is tiny with nowhere to escape. I've been walking my dog every day, he whines the whole time from excitement which makes me more crazy then I bump into all our neighbours.Strangers all start conversations, they are obviously craving connection.This isolation is not isolating enough! I'm actually so miserable I'm getting suicidal thoughts as I feel so smothered. I try to watch my show on the iPad in bed with headphones to be alone and get interrupted every 5 mins till I give up. Help any ideas appreciated! Anyone else love alone time?
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each day, its my most happiest time, often i cant be bothered with the walk but i always make myself and it’s the best, from tomorrow im doing it twice a day (at least!) and have told myself i can always go a third time if i need the space. Also my kids are in bed no latter then 7:30 every night NO MATTER WHAT my 16 yr old is also in her room from about that time, she can come out but we both have an understanding that the evenings are MY time to be alone, which is very important to me and the happyness of the whole family. Knowing i have these alone time options available to me each day is comfort in its self! Also when you go shopping or whatever, take an extra 30 min or so for yourself to just sit in the car or whatever.
Ive already had my dog free hour walk today, sublime! Another thing you could do (depending which state you’re in) is announce to the whole family that tomorrow/next Monday/whenever is your RDO-from life, this means that the whole family must be up and out by 9am they can go for a walk together (take the dog!) do a mini shop and sit and have an out door socially distant chat together, tell them they must be out for at least 2 hours preferably 3! Dont allow any of them to take a house key and tell them the door will be locked till whatever time works for you. They will also have to organise dinner for the whole family that night and clean up afterwards. Let them know (if they dont already know) that if you get this time you will be a sweet and loving human, if you dont you may go mad and then everyone will be unhappy, if at all possible try to ‘roster in’ your ‘RDO’ regularly, good luck my lonesome loving friend! :)