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And it sounds like you should !
Go with your gut "holding my kids back" was the best thing I did for them. They're all January-march bdays and all went the year they turned 6
They are all thriving not surviving and I'm so glad I didn't listen
Listen to your gut mumma
Poor little darling. Must be heartbreaking for you. You need to have a talk with her teacher. I am sure they've come across this before and would be able to help her.
I wouldn't pull her out. I would be looking at organising play dates or joining after school activities with some other kids from her class. The mental impact of working through half a year to have to redo it again can be a detriment. I have a just turned 5 year old who was in the same situation. Last holidays we had 3 other students over for one on one play dates. He has begun to develop from there. I have been spending some time talking to the mums also so after school. Both of our children have an opportunity for interaction without any peers. This helps a lot. We will do play dates again next holidays with the same children and 2 new ones. Honestly it takes some kids until term 2 of year 1 then something changes.
What if the same thing happens next year?
Yes pull her out and start again next year. In SA you only get one chance to attend government funded kindy so just check if you pull out now you can get a spot next year.
Try inviting some class mates over, 1-3 at a time. This really helped my son. He he has a social anxiety disorder. Getting to know a kids in smaller groups helped him relax. Also i could manage his behavior/discomfort to help him fit in.
Speak with the school
They will give you an idea of what they think or if she will have to repeat. I would pull her out
This hurts just to read. My child is anxious and it is heart breaking. I really feel for you. It’s my worst nightmare I think as I had a hard time ‘fitting in’ and making friends at school so I’m praying for the best and if not looking for ways to help them also. But my advice would be like someone else said, pick 2-3 people for small play dates.. and also ask the teacher for help as they would have seen it before and may have different ideas or strategies and may just be able to help you out since they are there with her for a lot of that time.
All the best xxx
Honestly it happens and there is a high likelihood of it happening again. Id write the pros and cons for example if shes capable of the work this year then what if she repeats and finds it far too boring. Sometimes kids are socially awkward and just need time to adjust. I personally started school at 4 and had zero friends. But i was more than capable of the work. No amount of keeping me back would have made me any less socially awkard. My daughter in grade 2 is the same. I would honestly just wait it out. Maybe even see if theres any lunchtime clubs she could join. Ans also get her to make friends outside of school through after school activities such as girl guides or scouts.
Pull her out. If you are able to join your local home school community. Those kids are very confident and welcoming to all new comers.