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My husband's bestfriend told him he thinks he's still in love with his old ex girlfriend he's married with 2 kids!

We're all really close. His wife is a very good friend of mine. My husband wasn't suppose to tell me. i don't know what to do. I don't know if I can keep this secret it's too big.

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F**k! Mind your own business!!!

 I agree -this really isn't as big of an issue as OP is making. We can hold love for people from our past, but they can stay in the past.
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 Ummm, put yourself in her position. Would you want to know? I agree that it is not like he is having a full blown affair, and also the bloke confided in the husband, not her. But OP is right to be concerned, I understand where she is coming from. I have been in the position where I was the last to know and it was very demoralizing. Personally, I would not tell but OP, I would be encouraging your husband to be a support to his friend and try to talk some sense to him without making him feel bad. He obviously told youe husband because he trusts him. I just hope your husband encourages him towards his marriage.
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 Unless he’s hes actually cheating or considering it, what sense is there to talk into him? He can’t help his feelings. I’m guessing he told OPs husband because he hates feeling the way he does and needed to confide in someone.
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 It's sad that we can't trust anyone these days. Everyone has their demons or insecuityes or regrets but to not be able to share is really sad. This is why I haven't shared my feelings on things with friends. People are so mosey and blabber mouths. This isn't an issue of cheating, it's self inquiring and reflection
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Keep it to yourself. You could break up their marriage and open up a can of worms. I would say he isn’t in love with her still, he probably has been looking at it with nostalgia and gets warm fuzzies over small moments in time that he mistakes for love.

 Agree with this.
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 Through rose coloured glasses only the good things are seen, and often the past creates rose coloured views on things.
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Thanks ladies for all of your encouraging comments i haven't said anything.

 Good
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I'm still in love with all my exes in one way or another, I gave them a little piece of mt heart and took some of theirs with me. Doesn't mean I don't love my husband. You sound like someone who hasn't been in many relationships.

Tricky. I can see how you would think that in her place, you would want to know. But I think its 3rd hand news, you don't know how much he actually meant it. He might have just been letting off steam.

 I’d tend to agree with this actually. May be a bit upsetting / awkward for you to hear and not say anything but it may have to be the case here. And it will also put a strain on hubby/his best mates relationship if you do tell her cos he’ll realise how she found out. Try keep it to yourself.
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My hubbys best friend told him that he doesn’t love his wife, actually hates her. I wish he never told me. I just gave the best advice I could to my hubby to pass on. It breaks my hear thinking she could do so much better but that’s up to him / them to work through.

 Hates her? That's extreme.
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Ummm, so what? Whoop de doo. I still love my first love, who went on to marry my best friend at the time. She was madly in love with him and neither of us wanted to hurt her by getting together. After 15 years I still get upset thinking about it but it doesn't change my love for my husband one bit, and if my old love turned up on my doorstep tomorrow wanting to be with me I would tell him no. Because I have my life with my amazing husband who I love more than anything. I don't think you need to poke your nose into anything. Mind your own business. People are complex and its good he feels like he can talk to your husband about it.

As stated above, you keep your nose out of it! Honestly, what will telling his wife achieve? Has he cheated on her, intending to cheat? If not, then saying something is going to cause needless drama.

Also, revealing somethings that is none of your business your husband has to,pld you in confidence is a breech of his trust. just don’t go there!

So what? Is he catching up with his ex or just thinking about her?

 He's been talking about it yes
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 ^ talking about it is not the same as doing it. I’ve been known to complain that one day I’m going to run away and never come back but that’s just me blowing off steam
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 ^haha I do that too
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Don't say anything. Unless you're a pot stirrer in which case still don't say anything just make some bloody soup!

 Not helpful. If this was happening to you, I am sure you would think differently.
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 Not true. I know my husband still cares about couple of his exes and I accept that. He's human. He's not about to run off to them im secure in my relationship. Some ppl just LOVE drama in their lives and if there isn't any then feel the need to create some. Feel like OP is doing this because she's making it out to be way bigger than it needs to be and will only cause trouble to repeat it. She wants to anyway because it's too big of a secret? Yeah right. Pot stirrer
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