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I am an ex smoker, so I know how very hard it is to give up. I gave up using patches years before my babies were born. I cannot tell you how angry smoking mothers made me feel when my son who was born prematurely was in the nicu through no fault of my own. Lots of doctors and nurses asked me if I was a smoker and all seemed surprised when I said no because so very many babies in the nicu come from mothers who smoked during pregnancy.
And even having babies in the nicu wasn't enough to make many of these mothers quit because I'd see them at the front of the hospital smoking while their babies were up in that nicu. I'd by sitting next to my son's humid crib 10 hours a day watching him sleep, not wanting to miss an opportunity I might get to hold him, (and some days I was only allowed to touch him, and even then I'd get told off if I touched him too much) and sometimes days would pass before I got that chance.
And when it was time to go home every night, my husband would have to half carry me out of the hospital I'd be sobbing so much because another day I'd be leaving the hospital without my baby, and as we left we'd pass smoking mothers, and heavily pregnant women, and I just wanted to scream at them. Tell them how stupid they were, how if they didn't smoke then maybe their baby wouldn't be in the nicu.
Now, I know a lot of those feelings came from post natal hormones, and the stress of having a baby in the nicu. But my god, some of those babies were tiny. Some of those babies DIED and if that isn't enough to make you stop smoking then I dont know what is.
Op in saying that sometimes it can be a reason but in my midwife years Iv actually seen women walking outside for a smoke after induction so it goes both ways and if some of the risks haven't made you stop likely nothing will
I would just say keep it to amino mum try to skip days as often as possible try not to smoke fill cigarettes ect ect
Ovcourse it's better to quit but cutting back as best your can is next best thing
It's a risk not a certainty. And there are more multiples in nicu. Women who had a second high risk pregnancy and delivered early, some for no reason at all. There's a complete mix of reasons babies end up there.
And I was suppose to put a comma not a full stop as in multiples are just one of the reasons. Iv seen a fair few premmies babies that's to food poisoning- but I could make a general assumption you didn't avoid meat ?
If you read my comment again I actually said ovcourse it's better she quits...
You are making your perfect, innocent little baby a smoker. That poor baby has no choice and that isn't fair. Get your act together and stop. I was a two pack a day smoker and as soon as I found out I was pregnant I stopped, no looking back. The health of my baby was my number one priority, being selfish wasn't a choice. Stop making excuses and STOP.
I was a pack a day, sometimes more but the minute I saw the two lines on my pregnancy test, That was it for me. I tried a farewell smoke, didn't even get half way through because I felt guilty that my innocent baby was exposed to poison. I didn't even have a single craving or relapse. I just didn't want it, my baby was more important. I haven't touched a cigarette since my 'farewell' attempt. You have to want to NOT smoke. Think about how unfair it is for your baby.
This is one of the most disturbing posts I have read on here and I hope it's a troll post.. :(
Im so sorry everyone is attacking you. Youve asked for help, not to say you love smoking. Its very hard to quit i understnd fully. Maybe speak to your OB or DR about getting some help.
Its not easy to admit these things and ask for help so well done. Ignore these nasty other nasty women. Xxx
I was a heavy smoker when I discovered I was pregnant with my first child. I gave up cold turkey as soon as I found out. I was a teenager living out of home with absolutely no support from my parents. I had an abusive boyfriend who continued to smoke throughout my pregnancy and still does to this day. I didn't think I was going to be able to give up but I just told myself it wasn't just about me anymore, I had a little baby that was 100% dependent on me. It was very hard, especially being around a smoker and having no support, but I did it. That baby is now 17 years old and I'm so glad I was able to quit. Op you say you have tried some of the things suggested to you. I don't know what to suggest to you but please please try to cut down and give up. I know it sounds trite but you really do just have to make yourself. I hope you go on to have a third healthy baby, but please please try. I have had several miscarriages since my first baby and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Good luck!
Try cut down if you can't quit. I have been told that quitting can put a lot of stress on your body that is not good for the baby. I was also told that the effects of smoking were negligible if the mother was only smoking a few a day. Good luck.
Just try quitting one at a time, I quit before I got pregnant but each time I felt like smoking I would delay it by 5 mins, then told myself I survived that 5 mins do could do another 5 mins, then get distracted with something else and eventually cut down to only 1 or 2 a day, then figured if I can do only 1 or 2 a day then I don't really need it and can cut down to none. But don't think of it as permanent, just say that tomorrow you won't smoke, you get thru tomorrow, then do the same thing for the next day and before you know it it's been a week, then another week, then a month, then a year. Take one day at a time, everything that's worth it is hard, especially at first
My stepmum cut down for her eldest and he was born 7 weeks premmie with clots in his kidneys. She quit as soon as she found out she was pregnant with her other 2 and went on to have 2 very healthy babies. None of them were planned so she didn't quit before hand for that reason. I've heard all sorts of things from "you have to quit cause the baby will be born with an addiction" to "if you quit while pregnant you are causing your body unnecessary stress and risking a miscarraige." I was fine cause I never smoked in the first place :)
I rang Quit (quit.org.au). They were really helpful. But at the end of the day you have to be ready and you have to want to quit. I didn't want to be a slave to my addiction constantly running around to satisfy it.
Having a conversation with my step mum the other day... she asks me if I worry about what I eat whilst being pregnant (like the seafood etc) whilst puffing on a smoke... she is also pregnant ... face palm!
Think mental images. Every time you puff on a cigarette, it's like a clamp going down on the umbilical cord and for that second you're taking a drag, your baby can't breathe. Imagine what is happenening to your baby for the 5-10 mins it takes you to smoke, however many times you smoke a day. At the other times you're not smoking, your baby is essentially breathing in poison; then think about all the stuff that it's cigarettes that your baby's teeny tiny body is absorbing. If these images don't help, then I would stop trying to find 'easy' ways to stop, I would try hypnotherapy or something else that has a higher success rate.