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I never feel like sex, and it isn't because my husband is crap at it or puts no effort in.... So yeah, I occasionally do when I don't feel like it, because otherwise he'd never get any. So while I don't think you should be obliged whenever your partner asks, I do think it's fair to consider their needs as well as your own occasionally. We have sex every few weeks- if it was up to my husband I'm sure it would be every night though lol
A lot of the time I start out of obligation but end up really enjoying it, my husband is really good in bed it's just that I have a crappy sex drive. If I said no every time I wasn't in the mood we'd never have sex at all.
If I didn't have sex cod I wasn't in the mood we never ever would!!!
Sometimes I get into afterwards , sometimes not. I have zero sex drive I think thanks to pregnancy and breast feeding which iv been doing for 4 years.
I used to have obligation sex with my partner and one day I decided to tell him that I have done it even when I'm not in the mood and he felt terrible and he also admitted to having sex with me when he wasn't in the mood and I felt terrible too, so we both agreed to just be honest and not put ourselves through that. He said even though he didn't know that's how I felt, that when I told him it made him feel like he has taken advantage of me.
I used to. But then I realized he doesn't do dishes or vacuum because he knows it will make me happy and feels obligated. So now I only let him at me when I wanna get laid.
I felt obligated to have sex for probably 25 years on a daily basis. I woke up one day and realised I felt violated by it. Now I never do it as an obligation. Now have sex around once a month and I actually enjoy it! He complained for a while but has accepted it since I told him how it was making me feel.
We are not having sex at all for a number of years. I'm worried the marriage will break up.
Id say 75% of the time Im not the least bit interested. But I spread my legs and go through the motions. Its as if hes masturbating inside me.
I love my hubby but i give him sex sometimes just to shut him up judge me all you like but I have no sex drive so your answer is yes I do . We make love once a week but he wants more
Mine wants it at least once every day. It drives me mad. I can usually avoid it for 2 or 3 days before I give in. Most of the time I enjoy it but the times I don't I just thinkin of it as part of my job. Every job has aspects that people don't like.
I did it last night. Haven't had it in about a month.
Toddler stayed with grandparents so I slept in our room.
Fell asleep on couch after him woke up went to bed and just wanted to sleeeeep without being woken by said toddler. Mans every time parents take him he wants sex I just wanna scream no - no - no I just want to sleep one night without someone waking me !!!
But our relationship has been strained of late so obligatory sex it was
I can start off not in the mood but he makes an effort to get me in the mood with a massage and I end up enjoying it. If I'm really not like I'm sick or exhausted I just say so give him a pash and goodnight. Sometimes he whines about it but I know it's better then just presenting hahaha because I would be resentful
Reading this has really helped I thought I was an alien or something for felling the way I do!!
I was a size 10 curvey when I met my husband and used to have the sex drive of a rabbit.. but after opening up to him and realising that my laddish out there ways was me just masking my deep rooted depression.
After years of anti depressants and going from my lovely size 10 to a 24 in just under 2 years my sex drive just dried up... so I was doing it for him... hating my body and size but him being so wonderful and saying how much he fancied me helped a little.
Now off the happy pills I have now lost almost 4 stone and now a 18 and feeling better but my sex drive still hasn’t returned...
it’s not that I don’t fancy my hubby as I think he is the sexiest alive but my body is worn out now and even though I enjoy it when we are doing it, it’s gettting the drive to do it in the first place. He is being respectful but I can see he’s getting frustrated and hurt
I went for years either saying no or occasionally giving in as felt like I had too. Then this year something in me changed and cannot get enough of it. Occasionally i am not in the mood but if I know he really wants to and I'm not in the mood I will roll over and ask him to give me a gentle massage/rub on my back and next thing I know I am back in the mood. We can make love every night or sometimes a couple of times a night. Love it. We are getting on better also once we talked about it and explained things.
I wish i had your problem, we havnt had sex in over 1 year