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Pregnant and don't want unvaccinated people visiting when baby is born

I don't think it's too much to ask that people make sure that they are vaccinated and up to date with their boosters before visiting a newborn. But how can you really say that to family? I don't think that 6 weeks is that long to wait to visit if they aren't going to be immunised, but I can be a pushover. My mother and in laws are with me 100%, it's just my dad and his wife and kids that I'm really concerned about. :( I just want to enjoy this happy time and have anything ruin it.

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I told everyone that if they do not get vaccinated out have the booster they were not to visit. My parents did not see their grand daughter until 6 weeks.
I also asked everyone if they were sick before they visited. I didn't care if I offended, I'd rather offend someone than watch my baby sick. Id rather people say I was OTT then watch my baby sick. Id rather tell people to f**k off and not touch my baby then watch her sick. I also made it clear on face book, by sharing articles about vaccinations and having a rant about how in would not let anyone near my baby unvaccinated. My best Freind kids are unvaccinated.... Her kids are not allowed near my new born.
But then again, I don't easily get offended, I speak my mind and I am a mumma bear. I tell it like it is. Because frankly my children's health and wellness means more to me than your feelings.
So my advice be upfront and clear about where you stand and don't be afraid to tell strangers to stay away from your pram. Just think about your bub.

 Did you stay home for 6 weeks ?
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If your not going to allow family/friends to visit if sick or unvaccinated then you should also be spending those 6 weeks at home. Don't take baby anywhere!

 A lot of people dont these days
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Original poster here. Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond in a genuinely kind and nonjudgmental way! Yes, I am a first time mum, and my midwives and the hospital I am going through were actually the ones to recommended no unvaccinated visitors for the first 6 weeks. And yes, that will apply to people who are sick as well. I don't think that it's like I'm telling people what to do with their bodies, I mean, it will only be immediate family (parents and siblings) visiting for the first 6 weeks, so if they chose not to vaccinate, then they could visit after the 6 week mark. I'm not judging either way, I just hope that they understand my choice and respect it.
And I actually think it's ridiculous the people calling me over controlling, how is me choosing who can see MY child for 6 weeks controlling? I'm just doing what is medically recommended to try to give my baby the best possible start in life.
Thanks again to everyone who gave helpful advice in addressing those few family members, I appreciate it! :)

 I think your doing the smart thing. I never worried about that because , no one visited anyway but I made my partner at the time get fully up to date and only took them in for midwife check ups
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 I completely agree with you. You're your baby's advocate. They can't make decisions for themselves and so you need to. Some of those are decisions others wouldn't make, but it's none of their business what you decide is best, for YOUR child. Yep, people are going to tell you you're being ridiculous and over the top but too bad. They can have their opinion, but you are the one ultimately responsible for this little person, and so you have to do what YOU thing is best. And that applies to all aspects of parenting. People have an opinion on it all. If it's something you feel strongly about, stick to your guns.
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 I would be checking that your healthcare professionals are up to date! Have you asked them? I went through a public system and my midwife changed most times I asked one of the midwives if she was up to date and she wasn't! They don't HAVE to have booster shots!!! Which makes me wonder why??!! Crazy!
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You know having the whooping cough booster doesn't guarantee you won't get whooping cough right? What it does is makes the disease less severe if you do get it, so someone thats been vaccinated can only have a mild cough or not even, for adults just a tickly throat, think nothing of it and spread it round. So the unvaccinated are actually more likely to be aware if they have it than the vaccinated and sick people will generally have the common sense to stay away from babies.

 Lol, sorry sweetie this is wrong and terrible advice
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 Vaccination has been proven time and time again to minimise the risk of getting whopping cough. Car seats don't always mean your baby will be safe either, but every time you get in the car you sure buckle them up in their car seat. No different
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Your baby your choice. You do what right for you.
As for relatives/friends not being able to get booster shots, your baby didn't pop out over night.

It always saddens me at how judgemental other mothers are on each other. Being a mum is a tough job where you second guess yourself and deal with a lot of judgements and guilt. Why do other mothers feel the need to judge each other with their opinions and criticism. No one knows their baby and situation better than the mother. If this is what this mother feels is best for her baby then she should most definitely do it and stick to your guns. There is always someone ready to tell you you are doing it wrong or a better way to do it. We need to support other mothers and their decisions not judge them.

I have asked immediate family to make sure that their boosters are up to date and they all agree and have done so. As with other relatives and friends, i cant control that at all. Having said that, if someone comes and visits while sick, i will restrict them access to baby but then again isnt that common sense? Don't visit if you are unwell???

Be open and honest and if they don't like it tough luck. Baby's health and Mums sanity come first !!

Vaccinated does not mean healthy, just like unvaccinated doesn't automatically mean sick and diseased. Just because someone is unvaccinated doesn't mean they are spreading disease.You should keep sick people away from your baby and vaccine status should have nothing to do with it.

 Just because thats your opinion doesbt mean your right.

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 Thats good advice.
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 This is not true?? You do know that infants die from whooping cough? And often the person that gave it to baby didn't even know they had it. Common sense to expect visitors to be up to date on their boosters. Why wouldn't you do everything you could to protect your child?
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 Good lord are you serious?

Mumma you do what feels right, unvaxed is potentially dangerous for baby. Many serious illnesses have no obvious symptoms at first.

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Im fully pro vaccinate. However I do feel some people just take things too far. I assume then that you will be having a home birth and not a hospital. And that NO one leaves the house for 6 weeks.

 some people actually care about the health of their newborn, so yes, she/ a lot of people are like this.
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 Exactly! I was in a shared room in a hospital after I gave birth and I hadn't had any boosters nor did anyone that visited me, and the other people in the room were none the wiser
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If anyone is sick or a hint or sickeness should stay away. I am fully vaccinated but I still got whooping cough,mild case but at first you may think you have a cold or asthma. What I am saying is don't "relax" just because people are vaccinated. less people handling the baby the better.

Good on you. We need to make this the norm. I asked all close friends and family who wanted to visit to please be vaccinated. Some refused and I said no problem, we will try catch you after bub has had hers. Also that poor baby who recently lost his fight for whooping cough parents run a Facebook page raising awareness and recommend what you are doing. They have a post you can share on your page informing friends and family of your expectations and why. I think the page is Light for Riley. xx

 The page is Light for Riley. Sad to say the family does not know how he contracted whooping cough and possibly never will. Seeing what theyve gone through I dont think a mother can be too cautious about who comes in contact with their newborn. I am horrified by friends that we thought were immunised for sake of their own child were not, and were in close contact with all three of ours. Better to be tough than the alternative.
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 You do realise that Riley's mother actually had whooping cough herself? I was on a forum site and she was on it and confirmed after Bub was born that she had a severe cough that ripped her stitches open and her stomach hurt from coughing... As soon as Bub passed she deleted all those posts... I wouldn't want the world to know I passed it onto my child either... But the message they are sending out isn't right. It should be that ANYONE who is sick should stay away, vaccination status is irrelevant.
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 That comment above is extremely wrong about Riley's mum! How dare you. Vaccination status is not relevant, it's what this is all about!
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That's just being ridiculous! Telling people what to put in their body. Are you going to take full responsibility if they have an adverse reaction to the vaccine? Are you going to care for them if they're disabled for the rest of their life like many have been from vaccines?
Are you keeping your baby home and away from ALL public places like shopping centres/parks/ caffes where there might be unvaccinated people? Don't be over controlling. Worry bout you're baby but stop telling other people what to do.They are adults and can decide for themselves what they want or don't want in their bodies without you dictating it to them.

 She is just saying not to visit they don't have to have the vaccine.
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 Agree with you.
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 Good question, are you going to keep baby at home for 6 weeks?
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 No rediculous at all. They most certainly have the right to not have the vaccine but she is saying to not come near her newborn until after the newborn is covered but it's own vaccine. Would they care for HER baby if it was gasping for breath and dying a painful miserable death from whooping cough??? Just incredible!!!
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 No, she has made an informed decision to prevent the risk of her baby getting sick, especially with the whooping cough. Why would you people be so against that? She's just saying if people aren't up to date on their boosters to stay away. It's actually midwife recommended. Maybe you should get an education 😉
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 She is not controlling what they put in their body. She is saying that they can wait till baby is protected or get their own vaccines. No guns to their heads while they are chained getting a needle. Calm the f**k down.
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 Your an idiot how is she telling them what to do to their body? You have the choice not to vax just respect the wishes of the babies mum and wait a few weeks to visit
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 Dumbest comment I have ever read.
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And if they told you they had the vaccine but didn't really then you'd be none the wiser

 yeah well she's gonna figure out that one or more of her family members is a lying piece of shit and therefore has a chance to cut them right out of their life there and then!

It's called common decency, something you lack obviously.

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 An easy way to find out if the friends and family really did get vaccinated is to ask for their vaccination reccord cards which are given to people to have a record of when they are due to get boosters next

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 Why would anyone lie about something so important?
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