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Pregnant and don't want unvaccinated people visiting when baby is born

I don't think it's too much to ask that people make sure that they are vaccinated and up to date with their boosters before visiting a newborn. But how can you really say that to family? I don't think that 6 weeks is that long to wait to visit if they aren't going to be immunised, but I can be a pushover. My mother and in laws are with me 100%, it's just my dad and his wife and kids that I'm really concerned about. :( I just want to enjoy this happy time and have anything ruin it.


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Make sure you get the whooping cough vaccine prior to birth..... this will help protect you and your newborn until your babe can get the first vaccine!

I drew a flat line. No visitors until 6 weeks. Gave me time to recover and adjust. I didn't want my nieces and nephews germy hands all over my new bub.

Sorry to burst your bubble- but your daughter is attending preschool or daycare is she not? She will be the one to bring home the germs and diseases regardless if she is vaccinated or not. Just because people are vaccinated DOESN'T mean they dont spread the virus. So just be sensible, have guests wash hands and limit contact with them. If they are actually physically sick tell them to stay the f*@ away. Hope that helps.

Put a notice on Facebook eg: We understand everyone is excited to meet ...., but we are asking that everyone considers baby and makes sure they've had a recent booster, we understand if you choose not to, but if that is the case we ask that you wait until after .... Has had their 6 week vaccinations. Also please be considerate and postpone visits if you are at all unwell, we will not be offended if you have to delay your visit, but we will be very upset if you come over to share your germs! Thanks etc etc. I'd also put a note to the same effect on your front door. And maybe add something about no kissing and no touching the face.

You will never regret standing up for your child, you will regret it if you don't.
Personal experience

I get it that you would like to protect your newborn from illnesses etc, but does your no unimmunised visitors request also apply to the nurses, doctors and midwives? They are exposed to all sorts of diseases/viruses working with sick people 24/7 i had my baby 6wks ago, had a shared room with 2 other woman & babies the woman in the cubicle next to me had jst had a c-section and also had a sore throat a chest infection and pneumonia and coughed n spluttered all day n night she had drs n nurses in and out constantly i didnt see one of them wash their hands before they came to my cubicle. Surely there would of been some sort of contagions in the air?? Needless to say the staff seemed to think it was fine to roomshare, anyway just saying there are diseases everywhere especially in hospitals so you can't, exposure to the world and its viruses helps build immunity, what do u think is in a vaccine?? And before you jump down my throat all four of my children are immunised just saying you cant be too precious

 *can't stop exposure
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 I'm going through a private hospital which guarantees a private room. I've never once see anyone there be so unhygienic and I know for a fact that they have to up to date with their immunisations. My sister is a nurse and my BIL's partner is a midwife.
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Boostrix (diphtheria/tetanus/whooping cough immunisation) is now recommended for women over 28 weeks pregnant, for every pregnancy. This assists in provided antibodies for your unborn/post natally up to 6 weeks when they receive the first whooping cough containing immunisations. This is available from your GP/antenatal care provider. It is now an Australian immunisation register recommendation.

Your choice hun. I would put the health and welfare of my baby first before the visitors who want to spend time with baby. Face palm to the antivaxxers or nay sayers. Science always proves otherwise

Vaccines don't prevent whooping cough, they just reduce the severity. We asked for no visitors in hospital or for the first week so we could get the hang of feeding and she could put on weight. When people came over, we checked they weren't sick, asked them to wash their hand and we tried to leave her in her cot as much as possible.

What if they want to get the booster but can't? It can be very difficult to find the whopping cough vaccine on its own at the moment. Have had some heart broken grandparents at work when we tell them it's unavailable and there's no word on when it will be back in stock and it's not as simple as going to another pharmacy to get it.

 Then they will have to wait, its sucks yes. But my child's health comes before someone wanting to see them
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You are not be unreasonable at all. They will get over it I assure you. You won't regret it but if something happens to bub you and your husband are the ones that will have to live with the pain.

And get them to wash their hands before handling Bub. Put a plastic rain cover over the pram when out it s sheet and say Bubs is sleeping when you go out. Your baby. Your choice.

OMG. That baby is going to be over protected. Fact.

 Better than dying of whopping cough.... I wonder if parents who have lost their children to preventable diseases wish they were more protected??
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 Overprotected? More like common sense.
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 Helicopter parenting in 3, 2,1....
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 Better than neglect, feel sad your poor babies don't mummies who do everything in their power to protect them.
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 This is obviously a bogan more concerned with her next packet of ciggies. Lol
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 Overprotected that is bullocks it's pretty sensible. Overprotected is just a word neglectful mummies use to those of us who do everything they can to give babies their best start to life. You're clearly going to make a great parent Op good luck with it all
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 Let me guess... You are all those mums who don't allow your kids any sugar ;-)
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What about people that cannot be vaccinated? I have an autoimmune disease and so can't be vaccinated with live vaccines. Though this also means I make more of an effort to stay away from anyone that is sick, and my own chronic illness (not contagious) means the majority of my time is spent at home / semi quarantined.
Hypothetically, would I be able to visit your newborn?

 You are not her family or friend. What an absolutely stupid response that has nothing to do with the question
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 Id make you wait 6 weeks, I understand your point but my childs health comes first rather then your want to see my new born.
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 I'm the poster, and that doesn't even apply to my situation. Only immediate family will be visiting the baby for the first 6 weeks, and I know for a fact that none of them have that problem.
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