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Your niece or nephew will be so grateful to you in the future. No one wants to be named Fido.
Oh for fu**s sake, change the dogs name. Giggle and tell your daughter that her puppy would never want the same name as her cousin and giggle every time you call the baby ruby!
Take a snap shot of the nasty crap she has sent and have your husband send it to his brother with a message that you have not responded because that is what you have woken up to.
She is hormonal and her partner is away which is stressful at this time. Not an excuse for her but a good reason for you not to react.
I'm curious, whats the name?
I would change the name and get your husband to call his brother and tell him about the messages. I wouldnt responded to her. Just ignore her for now.......
Don’t change the puppy’s name. I think even if you did, she wouldn’t use it anyway just to piss you off. Definately make sure your brother knows about the messages.
No way would I change the puppys name after her performance. She can still use the name for the baby or she can pick a different one. The baby isn't even born yet and not like it's the last name left on the planet. Pregnant or not does not excuse someone for being a bitch.
I would start looking online for a very cute onesie with puppy dog ears and a little fluffy tail. Or a stuffed toy dog? Maybe the Spot books as a gift? Man, you could mine this for present ideas for years!!!
Joking obviously but funny to think about...
Be the bigger person and change the name but make it obvious that her name calling was horrendous pregnancy is NOT an excuse.
Continue to ignore her childish crap. No one ‘owns’ a name a name (unless you made it up) so how on earth can you steal it? Hopefully the hormones will settle and she will see what a complete tool she has been and apologise.
She can still use the name. I can understand it would feel weird at first and she would be feeling a bit disappointed, but she needs to stop acting like a psycho.
Don't respond at all, but keep a record of everything. Make sure that your brother in law knows what's happened - I'd also make sure my parents in law knew for future reference. Because apparently, if you do something she doesn't like innocently and unintentionally, she will be poisonous. People don't change so watch your back with this one and always keep the evidence.
Ring your brother and ask him if he knows about the vitriol she's spewing. If he has no idea, explain to him that it was really inappropriate and if she ever mouths off at you like that again, you're done with her. If he does know, and worse still if he condones that filthy behaviour, cut contact with them. I'm guessing this is their first baby. Hopefully she calms down during motherhood, cos she sounds batshit crazy.
I'm pregnant right now, as is my SIL, and if she was to use my baby names that I've picked out, I'd be disappointed for a moment, but then move on. There's no need to be ridiculous about it. It's not as though there are only 4 names in the entire world. There are fu****g thousands. She needs to grow up.
Id probably change the name for your husbands sake, but in the future I would limit the amount of time I spent with her. That type of abusiveness is never ok.