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Swallowing semen?

So, after 2 years of being a single mum, I have finally found someone. Things have progressed quickly and we are really falling for each other. In fact, I think I love him.
The thing is, he really really wants to come in my mouth. I have only done this twice and I'm 36!
I'm not afraid of it, but I kind of want it to be spontaneous and to happen occasionally, not every time. I don't mind him doing it, but I'm just a bit tentative, as it's a new relationship.
My question is, do you allow your partner to come in your mouth regularly? What is the best way to tell him in not ready to do it?


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I've never given a blow job without swallowing! It's just part of it....that's why it's called a job ๐Ÿ˜‹

 um, no. Heaps of people dont swallow
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I've always swallowed, my husband loves it, we have a great sex life and he always finishes in me unless I have my period then I get him off with a blow job

I'm kinky. I feel cheated if my husband doesn't fill my mouth with his cum for me to swallow. I love it.

 I dont feel cheated but i do feel as if I didnt complete the full job and feel disappointed if I cant make him cum in my mouth.
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 I love knowing I am an oral goddess. that come is mine
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OP here. So we had sex a few times on the weekend, and I let him cum in my mouth twice. I thought it would gross me out - I've always thought it a bit like sneezing in someone's mouth. His cum doesn't taste like anything, and honestly I find him so incredibly sexy that it just wasn't a big deal. Thanks for all your answers. It's interesting to see what others have to say on the topic. X

 Well done you! Must be love
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I'm actually shocked how many women don't swallow or even have it in their mouth! Iv never not swallowed! I thought it was what everyone did! Iv literally given bead to, I don't know, say 25 guys in my life and Iv swallowed every single one of their cum, it doesn't taste great but I thought it was just part of it ๐Ÿ˜• No wonder they've all said I give amazing head ๐Ÿ˜ณ

 How does swallowing have anything to do with whether you give good head or not? I think I must swallow about 50% of the time (only when I'm drunk) but he doesn't think the other times are bad? Strange because it physically has nothing to do with their pleasure or the act of giving head?
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 it totally matters if its a good finish, but you don't always have to give the best finish. a variety is fun
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 it doesn't matter if you spit or swallow as long as you finish. ending with a handy is like giving you oral and then ending with a finger
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 It does matter if you swallow or not! Itโ€™s is an acceptance of his seed and to many men itโ€™s a very intimate thing. Itโ€™s no different to me wanting him to go down and on me and put his tongue inside me he accepts my bodily fluids and I love when he makes me dripping wet and explode!!!
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I have never had semen in my mouth. Just pre-cum makes me gag. I wouldn't do it.

 Me too.
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 Just the thought of it makes me gag!
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No, I find it incredibly degrading. I have a perfectly good vagina, there's no need to use my mouth.

 Haha, my husband has a perfectly good penis but that doesn't mean that he shouldn't use his mouth, tongue or fingers to get me off!
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 Omg I can tell how uptight of a person you are in the few sentences you've written ๐Ÿ˜‚
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 Don't put this woman down. She gave her opinion, which is obviously different to yours. It's ok to have a different opinion as it's what makes life interesting ๐Ÿ˜Š
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OP I agree not to put her down - that is her opinion and her right. You don't know her history.
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 It's just such a funny self righteous thing to say ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
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 Yeah I find it so rude how women have to be snarky to each other, make oneself feel hard core wild and sexy just for swallowing some sperm of a lover, and make another seem uptight and prudish because they prefer not to. It's a bit arrogant. Geez some people gag when drinking full cream milk, or yogurt or something that they can't stomach, LOL so understandably...cum ain't for everyone LOL
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Unless I'm comfortable with the guy coming in my mouth I wont give him a BJ.

The odds are pretty high that given the chance hes going to cum in your mouth wether you want him to or not.

I'm weird, I can't stand seamen it literally makes me want to vomit. So as far as coming in my mouth, no way. I can't even have my husband come on me. If he pulls out we have a towel ready. I have been comed on but I really have to brace myself so that I don't vomit. I don't know why I'm like this? It's just globby and gross :-(

 In the same. But itโ€™s with all bodily fluids. Even breast milk when I was pumping milk for my baby made me gag. (Soft, I know)
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 Whatโ€™s Denton mean?
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 you are not the only one. the smell makes me gag
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Semen is actually full of good things that when released into a woman's body (regardless of where its received) creates a release of serotonin which creates a feel good factor and can work as an anti-depressant.
If you're not comfortable swallowing, then don't, take control of the situation in a sexy way, move the intimacy on before he can release his load in your mouth by telling him "I need you, now!" And change position until you have him where you want to "take his load". At the end of the day, if he is getting off and so are you, does it matter where he finishes?

If he can't respect your choice, then does he respect you?

OP Thanks for your reply. I haven't said no, I've just maneuvered like you said. Id like him to do it, but I guess it's something I find quite intimate and would be more comfortable doing it a little bit down the track.
I consider myself quite sexually open.
He definitely doent lack respect for me.

I think I'm going to take control next time we are 'going at it' and have him do it, but on my terms.

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OP I should also add, he has come on my breasts (which I love!) and on my face. Just not in my mouth.
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Maybe start it up in the shower that way you aren't ready - No mess! :)

I don't swallow and in my 5 year relationship with my partner I've only recently started letting him cum in my mouth to be honest his never really wanted to, it's more me that has instigated it. It can be pretty hot in the right moment! If your not ready, don't. It's a personal thing just tell him your not sure but you will let him no when you are. Try to think of it in a good way rather than it being gross your giving him pleasure and make sure he returns the favour!


I have never had semen in my mouth. Can't stand the smell of it so the thought of it in my mouth makes me want to vomit.

Just let it go everywhere and rub it all over your breasts & neck.... turn on for both of you in my books.... it makes your skin supper smooth too ;-)
As for swallowing just sa ' i don't really fancy gagging on it's not really my thing....give me time we are still learning each others tricks giggle giggle' than one time when you getting into it instead of pulling away hold those hips of his down & swallow.... it's easier if your deep throating as it goes past your gag reflexes