How do I get some self esteem outside of my marriage?
Answered 2 years ago
My marriage is suffering. One of the things I'm trying to learn is to stop trying to turn to my husband for some sort of reassurance of my worth. He's only human. It doesn't seem fair to him, or to me, to burden him with my lack of self confidence. Its not his job to make or break my worth.
Due to him working away, and money being tight, I don't have any free time to get together with friends or join any community groups (I have a toddler with me, and older kids at school, and no babysitters).
Usually, I'd tell someone in my situation to join a mummy and me group, but there are none near me. I don't have a car either.
What can I do to build up my self esteem? I'm worried that the resentment I'm building towards my husband will ruin us. Like it will fester and eat me alive. Or that I'm over reacting and he's not actually the bastard I think he is. How do I fall in love with me again?
Have an answer?
The more you Enjoy things you ate doing, the happier you'll be and it'll have a flow on effect - you'll be a better mum and wife as well.
It doesn't have to cost money, even hiring a library book or learning yoga from you tube.
I hope you feel better soon, I've felt in the same place as you for a long time, but things are getting a lot better now that I'm trying to make myself happy too.