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Husband useless with money

Answered 2 months ago

What do you do when you can't trust your husband with your savings? I'm constantly trying to save & he will just randomly takes $700 out of our house savings account. I'm going without just to get our bank balances up & he's just doing whatever he likes. It's making me doubt our whole marriage. I'm thinking about marriage counseling so he can see how serious I am about it because whatever I say doesn't seem to have any effect.

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2 months ago
My husband is an alcoholic and gambling addict. I feel your pain.

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2 months ago
And you’re with him because ?

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2 months ago
Leave him

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2 months ago
I have certain accounts that he can’t see or have access to and Our money goes into our joint account then I transfer it to all the rest and he has an account I put his spending in. The rest he can see has two to sign on the accounts.

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2 months ago
Compromise. Come up with a set amount you’re both okay with him spending and don’t exceed it.

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2 months ago
My ex was also quite rubbish with money. While we were saving for a house, we had a strict budget for the household and we each had personal money in separate accounts. That way anything that we wanted 'no questions asked' we could save for or just buy. I imagine you can also set up with your bank so both of you are required to approve withdrawals.

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2 months ago
i think this sucks, but the questions I have are: are you both earning right now? is that amount quite equal or one sided? I do think this should be mutual agreement that you arrive at and its unclear if it is or you want this prioritised?

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2 months ago
Wow. At the very least have a serious conversation. It may mean some compromise on both sides. Set some goals together so you are both on the same page.