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Why take kids who can’t sit still to the movies?

Everytime I go to the movies some annoying brat spoils it. Happened again today. The kid looked about 8 years old. She didn’t sit down the entire time. She jumped down the steps then jumped all the way back. She ran though the aisles. She was even swinging on the step railings. Her mum kept yelling at her to sit down. They ruined it for me and my daughter. Why bring your kid if they can’t be quiet and watch the movie. I am NOT talking about little kids at mums n bubs sessions.

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Honestly that would not bother me at all. How else will she have the experience of a movie and learn to sit still. She needs to learn in the moment. If you block it out you can switch off to it but if u let yourself get pissed off then your aggravation will only multiply

 Bullshit it wouldn’t bother you. This girl was about 8. She was a big girl. She jumped down each step all the way to the bottom then jumped back all the way to the top. Over and over. She sat on the arm rest of the aisle seat next to my daughter and swung her legs up and down . She ran through the aisles. She swung off the step rails directly behind our seat. She was loud and distracting the entire movies. She was not learning anything because her mum said nothing.
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 “Her mum said nothing”? You said her mum was continually yelling at her. I think you were so upset that it may have seemed a bigger problem than it was. Next time just go get an employee and let them sort it out.
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 Her mum said nothing to me or to the other people.
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 By the way you describe the girl perhaps she has special needs. In which case she needs a little more patience and understanding. Her mum probably needed a bit of time out
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 My kid has special needs. It’s no excuse to let them behave badly and disrupt others. The kid shouldn’t have been allowed to behave like that the entire movie. The mother could’ve taken the kid to a park or play house if she needed time out. Movie tickets aren’t cheap and they’ve ruined some one else’s time.
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 ****sigh.............ok**** listen there's more important things in life to worry about!! If the mum's movie experience was ruined it's not this little girls fault.
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 It's her mother's fault as she should have taken her home after the first 10 minutes
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 It's the mothers fault!??? Seriously?
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Why do people need to whinge about EVERY little thing in life!!

 It was one whinge.
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 Exactly this is so petty
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 ^op is petty I mean i agree with commenter
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 You two must have bratty kids and teach them not to respect others.
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 It's not petty. If I have paid for movie tickets I expect the cinema will be reasonably quiet with others who also want to see the movie. If it's a kids movie a bit of noise and restlessness from kids is too be expected. But a child running around being loud is bloody inconsiderate, and I would absolutely be the person to complain.
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It does annoy me and I honestly would have taken my kids out if they behaved like that. Ruins it for everyone else who has paid big $ to sit and watch a movie.

 I just complain, you either get a refund or they get asked to leave.
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My 2 year old will walk around in the cinema when we go to the movie as a family with our older kids. Doesn't make a racket, just can't sit still in a seat for over an hour. We don't go often, but as the occasional treat we like to all go as a family without excluding our youngest and in time they learn to behave and it becomes easier for them to sit still as they get older. We don't allow boisterous behavior but a bit of walking around is normal for little kids.

 OP here. I don’t have a problem with your situation at all. You obviously have it under control and your kid is still learning. Totally fine. The girl in my cinema was much older, running amok and making lots of noise and her mother just let her.
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I really don’t understand people who are so easily affected by others. I ignore behaviour as mentioned but it’s probably related to the person I am and my ability to ignore fuckwits of any age. Unless you physically threaten me, I’ll pretend you don’t exist (if you are an undesirable person). It’s a quality I really about myself, I call it unaffected, it’s a good way to be otherwise people dictate your life/emotions. F**k dat

What did you go to see? Personally, I agree. Don't take your child if they can't sot quietly for the duration. I haven't been to the cinema in years because I can't afford the childcare for the day.

My kid gets too excited in public settings, and can't self regulate. Should my child be deprived because they might act up in this particular movie or maybe they won't? I don't know until we're in the situation and it's happening.

 Don’t deprive your kid. Take them to a parent and baby session until you think they’re ready to sit still.
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 I've never heard of mother and baby sessions at cinemas here.
But my child is also 10.

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 Pretty sure all cinemas have parent and baby sessions. They are usually on a morning during the week. They keep the lights on and allow prams in. And kids are allowed to walk around and make noise.
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 Well you take them away if its ruining it for other people, so yes your child should miss out! Teach them to be considerate of others not expect everyone else to put up with it because she hasn't learnt to 'self regulate' yet. You need to teach them what is appropriate and what isn't.
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 Train your kid so self regulate. Have movie nights, set a timer, set expectations...'when we are in public at the movies, it's not like being at home.. we can't just talk or get up and walk around..lets see who can make it 5 minutes..10 minutes...if you need to tell mummy something, it's polite to use a whisper voice and not your normal/loud voice...' have little challenges. Say to them 'if you want me to take you out in public for a movie, you have to show me that I can trust you to behave, do the right thing and not spoil it for others...let's treat this like a practice run..'. The problem is, the movies was a big deal / special treat, now it's just like eating out for dinner or breaky where everyone does it, and doesn't care so much if they are obviously being painful for the majority. Worked for my lot but took effort, and not giving in.
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 If my kids (6 and 4) were behaving like that at the movies I'd leave. We have left places before because of bad behaviour
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 I have had to PHYSICALLY remove my child kicking, screaming, biting and swearing from places before. Which is actually more of a distraction to everyone than child sitting, standing, sitting, standing.


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 This child never sat. She ran and jumped around the whole time.
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I have tripped kids over who were behaving like that. Soon stops them from being little shits.

 I’ve seen people do it too.
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My kids does this.... but quietly

 Even if your kid is quiet , it is still annoying seeing kids walking/ running down aisles. It’s distracting. It’s very rude to others who have paid to see a movie.
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 They've paid too.
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 So just because they paid they have a right to interrupt others? And why pay if you’re not even watching the movie?
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 Maybe there was no one else to watch the kid whilst the rest of the family went, or maybe this was their first visit and they will never go back. You don't know the reasons. If it bothered you that much you would have said something. If you don't, how is anyone to know. When I go see a kids movie I expect there to be restlessness, kids mucking etc. They are kids and in a new exciting environment. Of course some of them are going to muck. They aren't adults.
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 I think people keep assuming I’m talking about little kids. And also assuming I didn’t speak to the parent. I nicely smiled and asked the mother to ask the girl to be a little quieter and stop running in the row in front of me. Another family said directly to the girl stop jumping. The mother rolled her eyes at me. The girl was around 8, maybe older. The movie was two hours long. Surely after one hour the parent would realise the kid isn’t interested in the movie. The mother wasn’t even watching it. She was using her phone torch to read a book.
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 We all made assumptions because you were pretty vague. Maybe if you and another parent had spoken to the mother and child then you should have spoken to the attendant. Especially seeing how mum was reading a book. Chalk it up to experience and now you know what to do next time.
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 Yes agree bring together attention
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 *to staff attention
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Don't be miserable c*nts. Some kids can't sit still.

 Then why take them to a movie? Take them to a playground where they can burn off that energy.
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You just need to complain, they get asked to leave.

So when i want to see a family oriented movie without kids bugging me, I go to the late one. I usually end up with the theater to myself.

Try a drive in movie

 I don't think this lady would survive a drive in movie.
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Sounds like the 8yr old has sensory issues and the environment was causing that reaction. Cinemas are loud, bright etc which can cause issues for kids with SPD. My guess is that the parent is trying to teach the 8yr old how to behave in that setting or thought at 8yrs old that the child would be ready when she wasn't.

 So she should have been taken home.
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 I agree she should’ve taken her home if it was obvious it wasn’t going well. If she did have sensory issues why make her suffer through it? Take her home.
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 Omg!! Not every kid that does the wrong thing has sensory issues...this seems to be the diagnosis (excuse) for everything atm.
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