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She texts: ‘I like u & I want u’
He texts back: ‘I too like ur company & enjoy u’

Same meaning??


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ANSWER
1 year ago
Is there anything further on this one OP?

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1 year ago
Says he’s only seeing me 🤷‍♀️

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1 year ago
I say enjoy what you have for however long it lasts. Men don't think like we do so don't read too much into it. xx

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1 year ago
Ty.
I’m very much enjoying what’s happening however I’ve always been an overthinker; it’s the thief of joy!

ANSWER
1 year ago
I’m overthinking ur question as we speak 😂

ANSWER
1 year ago
I'm goanna put it out there. Why don't you just ask him?

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1 year ago
Too many reasons to say

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1 year ago
Asked my male friend, he thinks you wouldn’t enjoy someone’s company if you didn’t like them, so yes he likes you. To what degree, who knows, how does he treat you, speak to you etc etc would all come into it.
You want him, he enjoys you. Again, he’s enjoying whatever you’re doing together.

ANSWER
1 year ago
If he wanted anything more, he'd say so. Your text gave him the green light to elaborate and he didn't

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1 year ago
Hi OP. I know it's easier said then done but just give him a call or catch up with him and talk it out. It'll save you the stress and you know for sure what it is.

If he likes you, great, you can pursue a relationship if that's what you want.

If he doesn't, you can continue to be friends with benefits (if your heart is ok with that). Or you can invest your time in developing other relationships with someone who reciprocates the same feeling.

All the best x

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1 year ago
Thanks for response. It’ll never be a conventional relationship for many reasons, too many to post.
He rarely says much about feelings however shows it in little ways. Eg his house is cold yet he doesn’t feel it, yet when I come over, he has the heat on for me. Or he knows I love music, yet hate TV, so he puts the TV on the music channel (small victory lol)

The text he sent would’ve been hard for him to send & the 5min delay in my text to his says he chose his words carefully

He’s a bit damaged I guess but aren’t we all?!

ANSWER
1 year ago
OP, when you say he’s older - how old is he? 40s? I’m wondering why he’s single? Is he one that doesn’t want commitment? I feel that what you communicated in your message is different to what he is communicating. He is saying that he likes being friends with benefits - but nothing more. Whereas I feel like you have stronger feelings for him. Good luck x

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1 year ago
He’s early 50s. And got anyone wondering or yet to imply based on our age difference, no, he doesn’t have cash etc
Messy divorce a little while ago.
I’m not sure why ur asking ‘why he’s single’; because he hasn’t found anyone...?
Just like when a female is single I guess.

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1 year ago
He is not into you like you are into him. He “enjoys” you - that’s nasty.

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1 year ago
Nasty, what’s nasty about it. OP said he was a bit older, sounds like how an older person speaks. If she’s messing around with him she’s hope he enjoys her

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1 year ago
It sounds transactional- he should say enjoys our time together

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1 year ago
I think that’s a bit overthinking things when women start saying what men ‘should’ say.
He enjoys her, so what? It’s a turn of phrase. Transactional lol

ANSWER
1 year ago
You want an analysis?
Here goes.
You want his meat, he wants you as meat.
Forget feelings.
It's only about sex.
Have some self respect.
Define your relationship or just stay a piece of meat.
Up to you.

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1 year ago
Not seeing where the self respect bit comes into it

ANSWER
1 year ago
She: wants a potential solid relationship as time goes on
He: wants friends with benefits with no full on relationship commitment

But hey we’re just strangers! Can you possibly ask what the intentions are during your next face to face chat or phone conversation?!

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1 year ago
OP here: We are friends with benefits. I caught feels a little while ago, he told me about 3 months ago that he had feels. It’s more complicated than I’ve put here as he’s a bit older

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1 year ago
Are you having an affair?

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1 year ago
How much older?

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1 year ago
13yrs older. Married but separated

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1 year ago
To clarify, I’m married but separated. He’s single

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1 year ago
If he has feels too but he told you so months ago, he would have acted on it by now.

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1 year ago
He has acted on it; we see each other all the time 😂

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1 year ago
^ok, so why are you asking us to analysing this text?

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1 year ago
Cos it started out around 12 months ago as casual friends etc & the mention of feelings has only been raised a little while ago.
I’m always clear, he’s extremely guarded as he’s had a rough time with ex wife.
I think he’s worried re the age difference & our other complications.
I prob shouldn’t have posted it as it really needs the background that’s just too much to get into

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1 year ago
^ sounds like it way too complicated and a bit of fun is all he wants from you, for the moment at least: Don’t over think it, just go with it and see what happens.

ANSWER
1 year ago
He is correcting your awful text speak. I don’t think he has much respect for you. Sounds like a piss take.

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1 year ago
He would have put you not u if that was the case

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1 year ago
Nah he’s not. He wrote it more shorthand than that, that’s just how I typed it here

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1 year ago
Ok, then he wants to shag you back, otherwise could have just not responded or out right said he didn’t want you

ANSWER
1 year ago
Definitely not imo. Hers says I want to be with you. His says I want to be friends with you.

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1 year ago
OP here: when I said I wanted him, I meant sexually as we’ve fooled around but not the whole act yet.

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1 year ago
I agree. I'm getting friendzone vibes.

ANSWER
1 year ago
She says I like you and I want a shag
He says I enjoy your company and I enjoy shagging you

She got a reply so I reckon
It’s a text, talk to the other person , texts are so hard to figure out sometimes especially when it comes to relationships

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1 year ago
OP here; it is hard & this is complicated. These messages were sent when we were a bit drunk. He said he had feels ages ago & ive made myself fairly clear. He’s a bit older so maybe this is how the oldies communicate lol

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1 year ago
Don't trust anything a man says when he is drinking

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1 year ago
Or female says lol

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1 year ago
Yep if he’s a bit older that’s the polite way of saying I wanna bang you in the kitchen table, he’s maybe not used to texting this kind of stuff either

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1 year ago
His actions speak very loudly as well tho when not drinking. He’s pretty guarded as he’s been hurt badly so the alcohol made him loosen up in text

ANSWER
1 year ago
Hmm maybe not the exact same meaning but I think ur both saying u like each other, I like u/I like ur company, that’s the same to me. IMO, u like someone’s company if u like them. He enjoys being with u. My experience is males speak differently