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It sucks that the pill costs that much, it isn't the pill itself that costs that much it's the bloody doctors cashing in on it. I had that and my doctor charges a set amount for terminations, literally a set of 2 appointments that are no longer than a normal appointment, the hardest thing was inserting the tablet and then I had to sit in the nurses room for half an hour and go home to wait it out.
It's your body, not your husbands. It's you that needs to be able to physically cope with a 4th child, not him. He is being unsupportive of you, accidents happen and he is being an unreasonable asshole. If you want the termination then go for it, just take the money and do it. If he leaves, then so be it. If he would leave you over this then it does not sound like a very good partner to have around in the first place. He can have his views but he should not expect you to live by them too.
Please DON'T attempt to terminate this pregnancy yourself.
I'm sorry but your husband sounds like a dick. Bit of financial abuse red flags popping up
Take yourself into centerlink explain your situation and talk to them
Do you guys have a credit card???
Do you always use cash ??
Can you not et the abortion and use a card and deal with the repercussions later
Sounds like a good relationship to get out of by the little you've said to be honest .
I had one when in an abusive relationship and my GP got me in for free, I don’t know what she said or did but I was booked in within a week and didn’t pay a cent. Go to your GP and explain, they might be able to help xxx
I don't think abortion is the answer. You'll never regret a child that you have but you could regret an abortion for the rest of your life.
If you've already got 3 kids you'll make room in your heart to love one more
Thank you ladies for your help and understanding. After a talk with my doctor and a lot of soul searching, I've decided to go ahead with the pregnancy come what may. Surprisingly, my husband now seems to like the idea. What a mind f**k.
So whilst I'm going to keep the baby, I'm still bracing myself for the end of my marriage. That way, if mr moody butthole decides to go, well it'll be less of a shock. And also, because I'm getting a little over doing everything he wants. But that's another issue.
I truly appreciate the help and support you've offered here. It's been some of the nicest things said to me this last week or so. Obviously for privacy reasons I didn't identify as OP (my husband knows I frequent this website). Thank you again, OP.
I honestly get you.. we also have kids.. but I’m not doing great mentally.. I’m ok- but if I was to fall pregnant I would consider the same... and yes my husband would ‘’not allow’ or entertain the idea of an abortion. I’d just hope tht if we found ourselves in that position he’d be supportive but stressful situations can bring the worst out of us at the best of times!!
I don’t agree with some of the posters saying your husband is abusive or you should leave him...
I believe in fate, life throws shit at you; but I believe it’s in your ‘life plan’ (which is why some ppl can’t conceive cos it’s cleaely not to be for them)
and you will find a way to deal with this and it will make you stronger.
All the best to you
If you call an abortion clinic and explain maybe they can give you advice on a free service.
So sorry you're in the position, your husband sounds absolutely horrible. Go and speak to a gp xx
I hear that a really hot bath can bring on a miscarriage. Sorry about your situation. Your husband is a terrible person to treat your this way.