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Break up with me

Ok, so you are in a relationship with me but you want to break up with me. Let me down as best you can.


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I must leave you. Why, I cannot say. Where, you cannot know. How I will get there, I haven't decided yet.
But one thing I can tell you, any time I hear the
wind blow it will whisper your name... And so,let us part with a love that will echo through the

 Beautiful 😃
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 Isn't that the letter that Bart Simpson gives Ms Krabappel after he pretends to be her boyfriend??
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 Really? Here I was thinking it was from an old fashioned romance novel 😂 I love the Simpsons
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 Yep the Simpsons
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Please don’t use bullshit lines like ‘it’s not you it’s me’ or ‘I really want to be friends, that would mean a lot’. I’ve had that crap used on me and it was worse than actually being dumped.

So my advice, be honest. Get to the point. Because stroking someone’s ego before telling them you don’t love them any more doesn’t help. And, don’t make promises you can’t keep. Like the friends line.

And, do not break up via text, messenger or over the phone. Do it face to face.

So, maybe something like ‘I don’t feel like we are working anymore and I think we should go our separate ways’.

 Yes, yes, yes! Honesty and to the point. Don't drag it out. And don't make false promises. If you have been acting distant recently, as soon as you say "can we talk" or "we need to talk" they are going to know anyway. Just get it over with.
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I'm not sure if we're compatible enough for this to work, we have different (values, interests, world views etc). I think you would make a great partner, you're (list great qualities), you're just perfect for someone else. I've really loved the time we've spent together , I just don't think we have enough in common to make it work long term and I'm not sure if that's what you were looking for anyway, but I am. I'm sure you're going to meet someone who will be perfect for you. I'm sorry if I've hurt you or mislead you at all - insert hug-keep in touch if you want to, I understand if you don't. Xo- exit.

We are going in different directions / too different / growing apart.
I have actually used it when it was true. It doesnt mean any thing bad about them just exactly that, you are too different.

I broke up with someone a few weeks back. I did use the 'it's me a d not you line' because it really is me. I like him but it was still quite new but I have a lot that's just come up in my life and I needed to prioritize my kids.
Anyway, he's now annoying the crap out of me. Texting, wanting to constantly ask me questions, even turning up at my house. This guy is nearing 40. I don't want my kids to see this.
I wish I had just said that I didn't want to continue the relationship because I just didn't feel that we had a future.

Look, you're really nice. But this just isn't working out. I'm not feeling the relationship vibe you know? Like you're a great friend, but I feel it's only platonic. I'm sorry.