Sorry but I agree with this - partly. Culture is obviously something he holds in high regard and you knew this when you met, dated and married him and his family and culture probably had a lot to do with the moulding of your relationship. Though I do understand that family and culture can get too much and go too far sometimes, you need to have an honest and confronting conversation with him about making some changes but make sure you know what you want, and think about how you are saying it before you say it. Don't let the conversation get heated, be considerate yet firm and like I said, KNOW what you want and be clear with your requests.

Yes and I think it’s important to tell him that you are a partnership. You may not be earning money, but you are contributing too and you should have 50percent say in these things. That said, you will likely need to give a little...and you will need to find the full details..it sounds like he is not telling you why or how for a reason, or maybe not..and it’s important you know what is motivations are before coming down tough on him, as he may really feel it is justified, so get the full picture! Goodluck, every relationship has its issues and has room to grow, especially in areas of communication and finance. Maybe a number of mums here think they have it perfect, but hell no way do have it done and my relationship is otherwise relatively open in these areas.

But I disagree with everything i the initial comment!

She is at home with a baby, not because she is a bludger. While it is his money, you and the kids need to be a priority. And i'd be curious to know what types of crisis his family find themselves in. Like, if it's because they are being reckless and choosing to get themselves in shitty situations knowing someone will always bail them out - well I don't think he should be prioritising money to them over potential savings for his kids future etc.

This isn’t good advice

She didn't say she didn't like it. Just you judgemental.