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My husband keeps giving money to his family. We are broke.

Answered 2 years ago

His father is dead and he from culture where they support their parents but it's never ending crisis. Am stay at home with a baby and 2 year old not seeing a way out


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2 years ago
Get a job it’s his money and you knew his culture when you got together

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2 years ago
Sorry but I agree with this - partly. Culture is obviously something he holds in high regard and you knew this when you met, dated and married him and his family and culture probably had a lot to do with the moulding of your relationship. Though I do understand that family and culture can get too much and go too far sometimes, you need to have an honest and confronting conversation with him about making some changes but make sure you know what you want, and think about how you are saying it before you say it. Don't let the conversation get heated, be considerate yet firm and like I said, KNOW what you want and be clear with your requests.

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2 years ago
Yes and I think it’s important to tell him that you are a partnership. You may not be earning money, but you are contributing too and you should have 50percent say in these things. That said, you will likely need to give a little...and you will need to find the full details..it sounds like he is not telling you why or how for a reason, or maybe not..and it’s important you know what is motivations are before coming down tough on him, as he may really feel it is justified, so get the full picture! Goodluck, every relationship has its issues and has room to grow, especially in areas of communication and finance. Maybe a number of mums here think they have it perfect, but hell no way do have it done and my relationship is otherwise relatively open in these areas.

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2 years ago
But I disagree with everything i the initial comment!

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2 years ago
She is at home with a baby, not because she is a bludger. While it is his money, you and the kids need to be a priority. And i'd be curious to know what types of crisis his family find themselves in. Like, if it's because they are being reckless and choosing to get themselves in shitty situations knowing someone will always bail them out - well I don't think he should be prioritising money to them over potential savings for his kids future etc.

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2 years ago
Move away. Start selling the dream. Sea change, country life whatever your dream is. Put some distance between you & the family. Harder to ask for money when you have to call & ask money to be deposited into an account. maybe they'll learn to stand of their own 2 feet.

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2 years ago
This isn’t good advice

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2 years ago
She didn't say she didn't like it. Just you judgemental.

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2 years ago
So sorry to hear that you are going through this. Have you had a conversation about this with him? He needs to be putting you and your children first before anything else. Also he needs to discuss with you when planning on giving money away!

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2 years ago
That’s fucked