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I just don’t know if I could be bothered.....?

Partner and I have been together for 5 years. We have 5 kids, none together. 1 mine 4 his. He doesn’t give a shit. He doesn’t help with cooking or cleaning or anything in general. I try to talk with him about it but he either check out or gets pissed off. I’ve been at this for years and I just don’t know if I could be fricken bothered anymore but we have joint finances so I can’t just bugger off. Anyone else been here?


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I'd be buggering off. He has landed himself a mum and wife for his kids. I'd take your finances and leave..he won't change.

Babe he's not going to change and it's not going to get any better. Get your little ducks in a row and get the f**k out of there. Good luck xx

Similar situation I had 1 kid he had 5 even though he’s kids didn’t live with us I was always doing things for them which I didn’t mind.... he didn’t do a dam thing I was the cook the cleaner the driver the butler I even worked manual labour for him at his business never got paid. I thought to myself one day what am I his mother or his maid and realised I was both it’s not worth it to stay I was unhappy my kid was unhappy cause I was so busy taking care of him I didn’t have enough time for my child it never changes and I think you know that hence why you have posted this question.

How many hours a week does he work ?

 5 on 5 off roster 10 hour shifts. home every night
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 plus i work full time
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Get your ducks in order and get out. See a lawyer for advice about how to go about splitting your finances.
Hopefully you dont own property together ?
That can get messy.