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Anyone have a really hot wife but somehow you lost attraction for them?

Answered 1 year ago

In my opinion my wife is very sexy men are always checking her out gets annoying so it makes me feel like I have it good but then I find myself not wanting sex much with her unless I’m super horny. We have had a really hard marriage and I think a lot of the nasty toxic fighting has left me feeling some way for her. It’s like I can’t find happiness and stability. I find myself being more attractive to other women men would probably never go after. I would never cheat but it’s a struggle I can’t seem to get over.


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1 year ago
Perhaps you have grown up and realise there is more to a relationship than a nice rack?

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1 year ago
true true true!

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1 year ago
Going to rephrase that part since seems it came out wrong, what i meant was I find myself being attracted to way less attractive woman than my wife, woman that most men ignore because they are not the best looking gals somehow i find their imperfections very attractive.

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1 year ago
I think you have just discovered that personality plays a huge role in attraction.
Unfortunately if you cannot find aspects of her personality to fall in love with, it may go downhill from here.

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1 year ago
I think it’s all about how much you put on display actually. If I go out in a mini skirt, I get checked out. If I go out in jeans and a jumper, I don’t really get checked out. Same face, hair and make up both times, the only difference is how much skin is on show. Men are very visual. I think they pay attention to women’s bodies, so if your wife shows some cleavage or legs, she’ll get checked out, it’s not necessarily indicative of someone being super hot though.

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1 year ago
I don’t find this at all. I get more attention in my trackies with just a bit of bb cream, mascara and a messy bun than when I have everything “on show” and full make up done.

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1 year ago
It’s not about having a full face of make up on, it’s about showing skin. When you show skin, men look.

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1 year ago
OP of top comment here. I never have ‘everything on show’ (no prob with ppl who do, it’s just not me). I also don’t wear much make up. However, I have noticed a clear difference, when I wear more revealing clothing I get more male attention (I.e., a skirt or dress vs. jeans and jumper). That is my experience and plenty of my gfs have said the same. Men look, it’s ok it’s just human nature.

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1 year ago
I doubt anyone is checking trackies out 😂😂😂

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1 year ago
^Depends on location... gym or parkrun, yeah they might be.

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1 year ago
Yeah, nah. No one thinks trackies are sexy.

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1 year ago
actually maybe trackies ARE sexy, depends on your postcode 😂

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1 year ago
Maybe you’d check leggings out, but saggy, daggy, trackies - I think not 😂

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1 year ago
So are you a sex god then yourself, because you dont sound very respectful of women in general. 'other women men would probably never go after'?????..... seriously?

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1 year ago
Not at all I meant it as in I go after girls that are not that great looking. But it’s all in what I feel and observe I would never and have never made a move, I would never cheat on my wife.

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1 year ago
^OMG! This 100% Well said 👍🏻

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1 year ago
Do u love her?

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1 year ago
I do love her very much I guess I didn’t explain myself very well. It wasn’t just her looks that got me she has a lot of good qualities but the heavy fights and her insecurities make her be controlling in a very unhealthy way. I’ve dealt with things any other man would have walked away from guaranteed. She has molded other men to her demands and she has never been left/broken up before she has been the one to call it quits. She knows she is very wanted by many men. So she is able to make men fold her way. For her the reward for being “good to her” is being intimate. Other wise she is not in the mood, and I have to be the one to initiate sex. Because well that’s what she is used to. Any ways it’s been a lot to deal with and well her hotness is something I’m starting to dislike for being used that way.

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1 year ago
There is a lot here that seems to be going on. Sounds like you have some resentment towards your wife, especially her looks which she can’t control. It also sounds like you might have some self esteem issues which is why you need to validate yourself with saying you have a “hot” wife. There’s also a grass is greener issue. You look at women who you wouldn’t have found attractive once upon a time because you think the opposite of traditional beauty might make you happy in a way your wife won’t.

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1 year ago
There's more to love then looks. Are you in love with her? You didn't mention that just talked about shallow things like looks & her being hot.

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1 year ago
Because the other men are looking at your hot wife as just that HOT a little eye candy! While you can acknowledge her “sexy” appearance you also get the whole package; arguing, fighting, silent treatment, attitude, mood swings, laziness just to name a few. Probably alot of resentment built up from existing or previous marriage issues 🤷🏻‍♀️

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1 year ago
If she is ‘hot’ like you say, then of course other men will find her to be ‘hot’ too. I think the reason why you are looking at women you believe other men wouldn’t find attractive is because you’re jealous and you have trust issues. If you trust her, then other men checking her out wouldn’t bother you in the slightest.