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I just can't have sex with my husband?

Answered 7 months ago

I had an affair and now just cannot bring myself to have sex with my husband? We used to have sex quite a lot, then I had an affair and he suspects that I did, and now I just can't seem to want to have sex with him? I do love him but don't want sex anymore? What can I do ? I don't want to separate with / from him and don't want him to seek out a sex partner either ? I just don't know what to do?


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7 months ago
Leave

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7 months ago
Do the right thing and tell him as HE gets to decide if the relationship is savable or not. His trust was broken.

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7 months ago
Slapper

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10 months ago
If you really want to improve your marriage you will need to be vulnerable with him and explain what you have done.
Otherwise I would seek counseling individually and come to terms with the guilt from your affair.
Disclosures from an affair can be deeply hurtful.
I had affairs. I couldn’t stop at the one and ended up in several affairs before I finally got caught.

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10 months ago
Get counselling for yourself before telling husband of your affair. You need to tell them properly & be understanding of them, and your major part.
Don't tell just to relieve your guilt, you need to do the work. What you've done changes you're marriage ..... forever, it'll never be forgotten.

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10 months ago
I completely agree. If you disclose or when you get caught do it in front of a councillor. Be prepared to be completely open and honest about what you did.

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10 months ago
Sounds like you've already moved on - there's not much left for you if you stay anyway at this point, maybe just own up to it?

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10 months ago
If he already suspects it there isn't much left to lose!!!

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10 months ago
That’s right if he suspects and if he does not get sex well yes it’s all over so be up front and tell him them move out!

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10 months ago
The answer is "why did you have an affair"? Are you really supposed to be married to him? Is he the one and only? it sounds like you do not want to be married to anyone so why don't you just leave and then when you have sex or whatever with anyone or someone it is not an affair its just you doing what YOU want. You don't have to take someone else down or should I say hurt someone else that is a real person with feelings and are genuine. So just leave and let him be happy

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10 months ago
You do not love him. People who love their partners don't cheat on them. What a crock of shit.

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10 months ago
You made your bed ......