Answered below, but because I thought they weren’t helping. Supposed to be for anxiety and I was still really anxious I also felt a lot of side effects from the tablets so I’ll go on other tablets but to change you need to wean off for 2 -4 weeks, stay off for 2 weeks then go on to a different option. Big process

Yes I think I understand what you are saying. I think I know what the underlying issues are, but as you say they take far more work than what’s going on at the surface level. At the moment I can’t work on any deep seated issues until I can think a bit more clearly. Thanks for bringing this up. Really valid point

Hun, if you know what the underlying issues are, your half way to fixing things? Or is that too simplistic?

Half way to fixing them, but they are deep seated for a reason; figuring out what happened in my childhood to make me have shitty traits/behaviours; how to change them now and make life easier for myself and most of all; so I don’t pass the behaviours onto my kids- if it’s not too late. Not that simple!

Definitely not simple, I feel for you and I could only give you that initial advice because I’ve been thinking about this myself lately and I personally find it really confronting to see how much effort it is, but also see myself distracting myself. Can I ask what your issues are? I’m sorry to hear that your marriage is at a bad point, life is far from what we thought it was 10years ago right? We get more intrenched in our bad habits which become more negative to us as we age,, but we also gain other things too, so don’t be spot hard on yourself

I have kids with ‘behavioural issues’ no not badly behaved kids but with neurological problems.
This is a daily challenge. Hubby and I are on the rocks becaUse of it. Also since we didn’t realise how different we were and the problems from parenting that have risen because of this.
Also my family background is pretty rocky, and the issues from my childhood leave me parenting in a way I don’t want to; so I’m trying to face and figure out what the problems are to fix them, and it’s not actully an easy task when they are deep seated for a reason.
It takes a lot of soul searching if you want to call it that to figure out what my parents did wrong so I can identify, label and try and Change. These are the ‘issues’ that are on top of my mind. Gee!

True, I guess I harbour resent for telling my husband how bad I feel for him to turn his back on me. I guess even though it’s a new day I can’t let that go just to ‘start a new day’ whether that’s the right or wrong mindset to have

Thanks!

They were supposed to help with anxiety yet I still felt anxious. I didn’t realise they were actually helping in other ways. Only now I’m off them I can realise that

Also heaps of other side effects

I think I lack self respect. I feel depressed and rather than do the right thing by myself, I’m letting myself feel shitty and hope that others will help me. Like my husband and family and they aren’t. So then I resent them.. and also myself for not respecting me enough to want to help me out. Pretty bad cycle. But yeah I’ve just realised how stupid this is and IM the one that needs to stop it.

*with my deepest secrets.

Oh no I’m so sorry to hear that that happened to you. I’m glad you have someone you can work through it with.

I guess there is a lot going on, but since it’s all happening to my closest I feel I’ve got no one to confide in which is why I turned to complete strangers; something I never thought I’d do.
I haven’t yet found a psych that I can relate to remotely so I had almost given up with psych’s. I think it’s time to find new anti depressants and another psych.

Thank you x