Married and we each have boys from previous marriages. Although my wife’s son is a teen he demands all her attention get

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Married and we each have boys from previous marriages. Although my wife’s son is a teen he demands all her attention gets jealous of me and he doesn’t like my son much. She makes him priority when he is around in every way, is this wrong or am I overreacting?

I love the boys and I have tried my best to work even harder with her son as he is a very special kind of kid that gets in his feelings so much with a lot of things, if mom doesn’t give him enough attention, if mom loves on me, if she serves me more dinner, if she puts anyone else first in any way he will complain and get mad with her. I feel like I’m trying my best to make him comfortable letting him feel we are all a family but my wife completely neglected my son when it comes to showing him love, she is good to reprimand him when he isn’t doing something right but never connects with him other than that. I’ve talked to her about it, she says she will work on it but it’s been years she still the same. I feel like my relationship with my son is hurting and all I have time for is to make sure they are ok. That she is ok, that her son is ok. And mine simply because he is not complaining like the other is not loved on the same way by her or him. I do my best to make him feel my love but this is consuming me I don’t know what to do anymore.

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4 years ago

Would it be so bad to break up and concentrate on you and your sons life? It doesn’t look like she will change.

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4 years ago

I know it's not as simple as it sounds. But put your child first. I've been that child. He needs you more than her and her son does. You chose to be a mother. Now it's your duty to be his mother and put him first. You will get your time when hes grown and living his own life.

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4 years ago

Your son comes first. Leave and give him the life he deserves. If you stay and things remain the same he will resent you when he’s an adult. Your step son still won’t care about you so you’ll lose both boys. Look after your son and yourself.

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4 years ago

Well she's doing what's best for her son, maybe it's time to do what's best for your son and leave so he doesn't feel neglected.
I just left my husband because he treats my kids to my ex with so much disrespect and is rude to them and would be incredibly put out and angry if i did anything for them. It didn't change, just got worse, so bye bye

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4 years ago

If you've spoken to her about it and she hasn't changed, I'd break up. Your son shouldn't have to feel like he's second best, and you shouldn't have to pander to her and her son. I feel kids should be raised to know that you will always be there for them, but that the world doesn't revolve around them. She's not helping the situation and I can't see her changing.

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