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Why do so many men cheat while we are pregnant or after having kid?

Answered 2 months ago

So many stories that your marriage was fine until children came along and suddenly your no longer attractive or your attention is on the kids not the father?

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2 months ago
Certainly wasn’t the case in my home.
I have friends that am have said that and it was mostly commonly put down to the decline in sex, loss of interest in the relationship on the woman’s side (as in no longer making an effort), and the sheer amount of whining that occurs because a lot women don’t regard housework as part of the stay at home mum job anymore. Also women just letting themselves go over many years after multiple kids. If you started with a size 12 wife a lot of men aren’t interested in then having to spend the next 20 with a size 24 - it’s shit but looks actually do matter

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2 months ago
Having let myself go(not that much!), I still actaully agree with everything you havw wrote. It wasnt the case it my home, but I like the honest response and just had to agree because I imagine you are about to be shot down :)

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2 months ago
My husband (ex now) said it was because he thought I didn't love him anymore because I never showed him. Absolute rubbish. I had 3 under 4 with the youngest being 7 months old. I was also miserable being married to a selfish prick but at least I tried everyday to make everyone happy in the family.

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2 months ago
Cause they are selfish and childish and think that they are entitled to sex.

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2 months ago
My ex said he only cheated because we were having another girl and he freaked out cause he wanted a boy and I said there was no way in the world I was doing pregnancy again (both high risk and it was exhausting). So apparently that's a good enough reason *sarcasm*. Then he had the hide to cry and tell me that I'm the bitch because I kicked him out and refused to take him back. Fast forward 5 years, he has not even met his 2nd daughter, has a son that he also has nothing to do with to another woman, who he also cheated on, and has moved across the country with the new girlfriend, who is now pregnant. Some men are just pigs. Thank god I found a decent one now. My only problem is, he really wants another kid (we have 3 between us) and I'm like "dude, I don't think you're understanding just how hard pregnancy was on me." I'd love another, but the idea of being pregnant again terrifies me

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2 months ago
Sorry he met her once, the day he signed the birth certificate. Said she was cute, took a photo and left. Didn't even pick her up

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2 months ago
Because your attention goes from them to babies or kids. You make them obsolete by making them feel unimportant and visa versa they do the same.

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2 months ago
hey Im a man and my beautiful wife has had 3 babies and there has been no chance of me cheating at all let alone after giving birth and helping make/build a family, I just cant believe anybody would do such a thing

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2 months ago
Because they are arseholes period.

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2 months ago
I think for some men, they are afraid to hurt the unborn child or you by having intercourse. You are now the mother of his child and he is putting you on a pedestal and keeping you both safe. Not always totally negative or selfish ladies. But the rest are just dogs lol

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2 months ago
I think some men get jealous of the attention a child takes from them, I think some freak out that they are tethered down and not young men on the prowl anymore..