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Sharing confidential information

Answered 2 months ago

Question for those in committed relationships… do you share all details of your personal friendships with your partner? For example a girlfriend has shared some very personal and private issue… do you automatically tell her partner?
My partner feels that I should tell him everything happening in my life even if it is a girlfriends secret whereas I think that information is confidential and if my friend has confided in me then I’m breaking her trust by sharing that information with him. He feels he can’t trust me if he knows I’m withholding information about my life with. What do you think?


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2 months ago
If I shared private info with a friend and they told anyone, partner or not they would be number one on my shit list and I would never share such information again.
I would be asking your partner why he needs to know such things, sounds controlling to me.

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2 months ago
Keep private secrets.

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3 months ago
Does your husband tell you EVERYTHING, that he discusses with his mates, including all secrets shared?

I don't think you need to (or should) tell your husband a secret that your friend has shared with you. You have the right to some privacy, especially when it (their secret/ personal info) that doesn't concern him. I think it's breaking their trust in you & they may stop sharing & your friendship will lose depth.

However, sharing some info can be good. What they're up to generally - work, family life etc. His request to know all details seem controlling.

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3 months ago
I tell my partner what he needs to know as we’ve had a friend who dragged us into drama just by us helping her. We’ve cut her off now and had to get police orders etc against her but now we’re way more open.

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3 months ago
I don't tell my husband everything, as it's not his business (not saying that in a mean way). Also most of it he wouldn't care about anyway. I wouldn't want my friends telling every detail of what we discuss to their partners. If you want to share that's up to you, but he doesn't have a right to know.

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3 months ago
I tell my husband most things - but my girlfriends know that, so they don’t need to tell me things they don’t want him to know. They also know he’s the quietest least gossipy person who doesn’t really want to know anything! I don’t tell him things he doesn’t want to know - like if they talk about their sex life or fertility issues or treatments, etc. I do have a friend who tells her husband everything - but he then wants to discuss it next time he sees you which can be deeply uncomfortable, so sometimes I don’t tell her things as a result.