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Next time you have sex, before he goes soft, stop and say "nah look we've got to stop, I'm not wet enough. It's your fault, actually. You're not 'into it', and it's ruining it for me."
If you can't imagine saying that to him, suprise! It's because you're not a terrible person.
Yeah blah blah, poor him, erectile dysfunction is embarrassing and emasculating. Boo hoo. Not a good enough reason to blame your partner for something that you KNOW is 100% your problem.
You are too young to be stuck in a relationship with terrible sex! Or a relationship you feel insecure in! Tell him.to hit the curb and find someone to satisfy all your needs. or at least buy yourself a decent vibrator and see how he deals with his broken toy being replaced. ps. Pot is definitelt linked to erectile problems.
This happened when my husband was having an affair...
How much porn does he watch? A lot of guys with porn addiction have this issue. Not to say it is the only cause, but consider if it might be.
Stop having sex with him, if he is blaming you for 'not being into it' just say no and when he asks why say you don't want to risk him feeling bad coz you are not into it. See if he realises that he is his own problem
I’m going through something similar, but it’s a new relationship. The only time he could remain hard was when he was drunk (but then he couldn’t ejaculate).
Last night he told me I didn’t give him long enough to get hard (we had been going at it for over an hour).
I told him that I can’t do the start and stop and start and stop; it isn’t enjoyable.
He said he is running a marathon, I told him he’s not even in the race.
I did not appreciate blaming me and saying I haven’t given him enough time to get into it. Him trying to have sex with a flaccid dick or give him oral with a flaccid dick is a major turn off. I don’t see the point.
This happened with someone i know. He's taking his insecurities out on you. It's a fundamental problem with his character. Walk away.
Its not your fault. They have to blame someone. He is being a idiot, its his problem to fix. At your age I dump him. Been there
You are not at fault babe. If he truly loved you he wouldn't care about your imperfections. You deserve so much better xx
My partner had struggled with ed. it's totally not your fault. It's his body and/or his mind that's doing it. My guess is he's blaming you because he's ashamed.
When it happened to my partner we just kept playing in different ways. I didn't want my judgment becoming a part of the issue. He was happy coz that let him relax if the problem came up ( no pun intended). Be a good idea for him to see a doc if it's become an issue. But please don't let him blame you, it's not your fault in any way
Tell hin exactly what you wrote here. His obviously being an a*s by blaming you so be an a*s back! I would!
Maybe there is something emotionally or mentally bothering him... 23 is very young to be having problems in the bed.
What about when you give him a bj? Or a handjob?
if it's only been the last 3 times, .. There is something bothering him.
After my third child my girl part became extremely large. My husband couldnt feel anything and would lose his erection 10-15 minutes after intercourse started.
We found other ways to satisfy each other. Intercourse became something to satisfy our emotional and intimacy needs. While we used oral and manual stimulation to fulfil our sexual and physical needs.
When my hubby had ed we would just make out, snuggle, be intimate in ways that weren't sex. His was due to medication that he had to take for a while because of a heart condition so viagra and others were out of the question. At any rate, sometimes the intimacy would lead to sex. Sometimes it would work, others no. I just let him know it was ok and we'd cuddle. Now that he's on new meds, we are back to regular trysts.