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Empty her entire bedroom apart from basic furniture and have her earn things back.
Spend quality time with her as often as you can, you can never be sure how things are going at school with friends etc, extra time to talk may help
Added bonus is they don't need it in their life anyways.
Additional consequences I would give advice on as I don't know this child, I don't know anything about her, I don't know if taking the technology off her would be all that's needed.
She also needs to realise a judge wouldn’t give a toss how hormonal she is. If she snapped like that at a school friend it is possible one punch could kill a person. 10 is not too young for prison.
Maybe a councillor as well. 10 year olds are good at hiding stuff.
Oh I am feeling for both of you ❤️
Seeing as you’ve said it’s out of character for her maybe try talking to her first about what was going through her mind when she lashed out. Start out by explaining that there will be a punishment however you’re concerned about her and go from there. If she seems okay once you’ve spoken to her maybe try and come up with a consequence together? Don’t approach her about it until you’re no longer angry as this will probably just lead to more tension. Good luck xxxx
I notice the mother says she has not physically punished her daughter "that much".
I would suggest this is entirely a learned behaviour and the mother should have a good look at herself rather than taking on some of the extreme sadistic measures suggested by some people here which will come back on her harder than a simple learned by example punch in the face.
Taking her door off is over the top, everyone deserves privacy. Have you thought about taking her to the Doctors?
I have noticed that I get rage from my kids when it comes to technology. It can become an addicition. Once I put my son in his room and took away his tablet, he got angry and threw a glass bottle which coincided with me walking past his room. It broke and sliced my leg and I had to get 7 stiches. Life got so much better when I completely banned tech out of the house barring the tv.
I am sick and tired of parents saying it was a one of! My grandchildren are always waging war on there mother! I have no problem with both of the kids as I took a stand when they were young. I only say 1, we never get to 2! Reason I have always balanced Love. My daughter phoned up one day and said her son had done the same! My answer to my grandson was YouHave Crossed The Line now as mummy is my child😡😡😡 He was given a good dressing down, police, courts or boys home! Took iPad away for 4 weeks. After 2 weeks I had a report. I asked him how he was going and behaving. His report on himself was right and I said that being honest with me was always better. His reward was his iPad back. From that day he has changed. Respect is the answer👍👍👍
Go you 👍🏼👍🏼 Your daughter is lucky to have you
I've been going through similar with no male support, but have been to Psychology sessions too. Prepuberty, impatience, bullying at School & a crap Teacher who won't talk about stuff are the triggers I think...big hugs. It's not nice to go through....xx
Thanks so far, I just wanted to add that she really isn't that in to the technology and doesn't care much when I take it away, it's just all I've got to leverage lol she loves chapter books and drawing mostly but I can't really confiscate those.. can I?
Check out “Naughty Naturopath Mum”, get her some “Teenager” drops, some “help” drops for both of you and some “Mumma Magic” for yourself. I thought it was all bullshit, but this stuff helped me through a very tough time! I agree that it is probably hormones, but hormones or not, we all have to control ourselves. So sorry that happened to you!
I used to get insane hormone issues from about that age until I was about 18. It would come out as just insane rage but I was also being so horrible and hard on myself. I would have so many thoughts about killing myself a few days a month. No one really believed me or gave my any support.
If I was you, I would be kind to her and supportive. Take her to see a doctor. This way she will hopefully always be honest with you and trust you. I definitely wouldn’t just blame it on technology
How are you though? That must have been so unexpected & a shock! Big hug, lovely xx