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Happy ending massage

Found out hubby had one on our honeymoon
i think its cheating
he doesnt

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And also my best friend is a masseuse from the Philippines and I can tell you there's no wanking Dicks at reputable establishments

 Which is ironic because those yoni female massages or whatever they're called, that end in orgasms for women, are done in professional settings.
In fact there was a post on here not long back where mums thought that was acceptable

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That’s move on. Any helpful feedback would be appreciated.

 That's disgusting and not practise at a normal reputable massage clinic. He went somewhere dodgy most likely on purpose and I would guess its not the first time. I think you shd leave you deserve a loyal man or be on yr own xXxX best of luck
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He must've been in friggin lala land to say this isn't cheating. Gosh, it's amazing what some people can justify in their mind. I see this thread is a couple of years old and wondering how things turned out for OP?

Wrong wrong wrong on so many levels.
I can't believe you're okay with that. Disgusting excuse of a Husband.

Lol when people refer to it as a spa day that makes me laugh. Since when can you snort cocaine of a masseues arse cheek, it isn't straight forward. It's always a party. There's always groping, nuzzling, oiled up willies between ample bosoms and blowing ones load. There is no facials of the cosmetic kind. No hot stone massages or pedicures. No complimentary tea and coffee. Don't fool yourself. Go into it with your eyes open.

He usually takes a ride over to Nevada where it is perfectly legal. I've been to the men's spa he goes to. It is clean, reputable and well run. The masseuses wear gloves for the happy ending. They have both men and women that offer the services. Yes they also offer other stuff there, but that's not what he's buying. As I said, I'm not an idiot or naive. I just believe it's not a big deal. I've had one, it wasn't for me but I can understand how it could be found enjoyable and relaxing by men or women.

 Sorry this was meant as a reply on my original comment answering some other replies.
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 It sounds like a brothel.
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 It's Nevada. I'd guess it's part brothel, part spa. They are everywhere there.
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 Wear gloves. Lmao. No they don't. Don't be so naive. Being that I've worked at 8 massage parlors in Sydney I've never met anyone who wears gloves nor would a man be OK with it.
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 In the US they are legal in Nevada and some other states and subject to heath inspections and such. Just because you know one disgusting place doesn't mean they all are.
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 Just because it is legal doesn't mean that it is right for your partner to go. He if was single he could go everyday but he has a partner. Admittedly a partner who is so stupid to believe the crap coming out of his mouth but a partner just the same.
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 Prudes? Haha wouldn't say I was a prude, your right the woman is fine with her husband going else where for a rub and tug but to me while in a relationship it's cheating. Nobody else should touching my boobs or pussy and nobody else should be touching my Hubsands dick.
Each to their own, but the fact that she refers to it like a spa day she is fooling herself. He is getting sexual relief form someone else and had told her its for stress relief... Wanking, handjobs , titty wanks they are all sexual.

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On your honeymoon is in bad taste, but cheating is a stretch. It's not really a sexy thing. It's about relaxation and release of tension. My husband gets one now and then when he's really stressed at work. At first i was mad but.in went to the place and they said it's really just a part of the massage. It helps release any lingering tension and they get it done in just a couple mins. Most of them are hookers who don't want to do it any more cuz they have kids or kicked drugs, etc, not hot young girls.

 Not normal for every massage, but in Asian massage techniques it's not uncommon. It's not part of a theraputic or hot stone massage etc. But it's also not uncommon in other cultures less strict to the Christian based laws of our society.
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 As i said, I went to the place and spoke to masseuses one afternoon to understand the practice.
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 I don't mean to be a bitch but they really pulled your leg hey. Happy endings are common in red light districts in Asia (going with your example), more often than not, set up illegally behind a restaurant or something equally dodgy.

You will NOt find reputable massage parlours or hotels doing it let along normalising it. Your husband is pretty much going to a hooker for a quick fix. Not for therapy. Please wake up.

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  Really? Your ok with your Hubsand with getting a hand jobs every now again from some other women..:. How would your Hubsand feel if you got a happy ending massage? Not so relaxed about it I bet!
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 It's not a relationship. He's not out trolling for chicks. Every now and then he gets a massage. I'm ok with it. He's not having sex or carrying on emotionally with anyone. I have kids, a house to run, a life. I don't have time to massage and jerk off hubby cuz he's having a tough week. It's once every couple months. Happy hubby, happy marriage
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 You don't know he's not having sex. Having travelled extensively all over Asia, some girls are very willing to offer more for more money. If he's going to Asian places here in Australia, where happy endings aren't actually legal! , you don't know what he's getting in there. And yes you spoke to the manager or owner of the place- probably another hooker.

Oh dear, more power to you. I do hope you're only trolling though as I feel really sad for you if you were telling the truth.

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 I know because he would tell me. We trust each other. I'm sorry you can't open your mind to understand that not everyone is as uptight about a lil "rub and tug."
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 Omg this is not normal it is disgusting and if he tells you it's normal and you believe him then chances are everything else he tells you is crap too. Just YUK.
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 Because as I said at the beginning, it's a cop out from your husband and you're letting him get away with it. Do you know the spiel these women give each other? Really degrading stuff, like go for fat men or go for men who flirt with you or look to see if he has a hard on when you're massaging him. They do NOT offer it to everybody.

I'm absolutely NOT a hooker by the way, but i befriend many in my travels when I was younger and let me tell you I would not let my husband have a rub and tug!

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 Another big thing these girls tell each other is get the men talking and gauge how happy he is in his marriage or sex life. Any sign of weakness, go for it. It's disgusting.

I'm sorry for you. Although I'm still hoping you're trolling :)

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 We've been married over 25 years. We have no issues sexually or otherwise. I'm just not bothered by it. To each his own, agree to disagree.
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 Wow your husband got you good. And so did the massage therapist.
Sorry to say he is paying her and doing it for the pure pleasure not because it is actually part of the massage

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 I like how everyone jumped on this woman because she is ok with it. Seems she did her homework and made a decision that works for her situation. If you have a loving, trusting relationship and set the boundaries you are comfortable with who are we to say what is right or wrong? 25 years of marriage is nothing to sneeze at so, they must be doing something right. In a world where more than half of marriages end in divorced something like 80% of divorce occuring in the first 5 years, I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss a marriage that has withstood.
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 OP of this comment. Thank you. I am glad someone out there can open their mind a crack to see that just because I don't do things your way doesn't mean it's the wrong way. I'm not an idiot. I know not all massages include a happy ending. Where hubby chooses to go it's part of the service. 12 years ago at a bachelor weekend, they all got them. He called to ask if i minded, which I found very respectful of him. I wasn't over the moon, but in the grand scheme of things, a handy isn't a big deal. He enjoyed it. He felt it enhanced the relaxation of the massage. When he came home he told me how relaxed he felt after compared to a chiropractic or theraputic massage. We talked about it, researched a reputable place, and I decided it was ok as long as he didn't abuse it. Now he goes once every 2-3 months when he's feeling stressed out. He knows I would not tolerate him having sex or getting oral etc. For him, it's not a sexual experience it's like a spa day, which I get every couple months.
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 Has your hubby then found a legit place where this technique is legal? If you can believe that a hand job for money from a hooker is a massage technique, you can probably believe anything your husband tells you and he probably uses it to his advantage.
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 Tell your husband that if He looks at the end of his arm he will see something called a hand. Tell him to use it to rub one out himself.
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 I hope my daughter never gets married to a man like this, marriage is between two people, sex and everything that goes with it is. She deserves better and so do you.
I just find this rather upsetting. I hope you wouldn't mind if your daughters husband did this to her one day

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 Well I can kinda understand if your not finding every few months to give a rub and tug cos of your busy life and house then I can understand why he does it!
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 Hunny, I'm all for being open minded, but you've got yours so far closed you can't see this for what it really is! I'm impressed by your husbands persuasion skills, but he is effectively cheating guilt free because you not only know about it but have ok'd it! If your happy for this to happen in your relationship then that's fine, but let's not call it something it isn't or pretend that it's just a massage technique. Your in an open relationship, and your husband is having a sexual relationship elsewhere, ok'd by you.
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 ^hunny urg 😖
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 Are you all kidding me. This woman has said she is fine with it. Some people have open marriages , some go to swingers clubs together. Not everyone lives a sterotypical life. Stop being prudes.
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 Prudes? Haha wouldn't say I was a prude, your right the woman is fine with her husband going else where for a rub and tug but to me while in a relationship it's cheating. Nobody else should touching my boobs or pussy and nobody else should be touching my Hubsands dick. Each to their own, but the fact that she refers to it like a spa day she is fooling herself. He is getting sexual relief form someone else and had told her its for stress relief... Wanking, handjobs , titty wanks they are all sexual!
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 As stated, there's nothing wrong with open relationships or people having a non "stereotypical relationship" as long are both are happy with it, but she needs to call it what it is.

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