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Happily married for three years. Have a bi curious side I’d like to explore? Don’t want to cheat. I tell my husband everything. Anyone been through this?

Before I start I’ve always been faithful. It’s an itch that just won’t seem to go away. Should I just tell him? Not interested in a threesome. Wouldn’t mind if he watched but def don’t want anything more than that. Opinions much appreciated.


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Just because you tell your husband doesn't mean it isn't cheating. Cheating is cheating. The gender is irrelevant. If your husband told you he wanted to have sex with other women while you watched would you be happy? Of course not.

 Cheating is a betrayal of trust. Doing something your partner wouldn’t approve of. If she approached him, discussed it with him and he consented to it, how is it cheating?
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