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You're hardly living in poverty. Be grateful.
You are fu****g lucky to be a stay at home mum. You can study online if you really want to. Kids will grow up soon, you can go back to work. Stop making yourself the victim.
No I never saw my life like this. Dependant on a man because I have no skills or job or money.
Raising more kids than I ever planned (I love them all and would never dream of adopting any out, but having this many was never EVER on my radar). Being trapped in the house because we have a car that's too small for our family, and I don't have a licence anyway.
I wanted to have a career. I wanted to go to uni. I wanted to be pretty with high heels, blonde hair, and a few friends, maybe a little apartment in the city close to work. Maybe a boyfriend or a little book of booty calls. Not overweight, married, miserable suburban housewife, washed up, and my hair is definitely NOT blonde, and my shoes are cheap joggers from Big W. Every time I put on a pair of jeans or trackies (I refused to wear them for years but now they're the warmest pants I can afford), I die a little inside. Whenever someone asks me "what's for dinner" I just want to cry.
I have no idea how to get out of this rut. I can't afford to study, and I can't afford the childcare costs to work a casual job. No one wants to hire me full time. And night work is out thanks to my husbands shitty attitude/schedule.
NO one made you fat except yourself
Since I wrote this, I thought about it and realised, hey my youngest will eventually be in school. So, that's a guaranteed time that things will change, but before then, who knows. You never know, maybe one of the full time jobs I've applied for will decide to hire me. Maybe I'll win the lotto (probably have to buy a ticket first though lol), maybe I'll become a movie star, or some blind old guy will want to be my sugar daddy for $1 million/month. Who knows. Maybe, I'll just stop feeling so down and out, and concentrate on making the most of these days.
YOU ARE A MUM AND ARE TRULY BLESSED!! WHO CARES ABOUT WORK?! MONEY'S FU***D. ENJOY YOUR TIME WITH THE BABIES WHO ADORE YOU AND LOVE YOU EVERY SWEET MOMENT WITH EVERY SWEET BREATH. I COMMEND YOU AND RESPECT YOU, IT'S NOT EASY BEING A MUM. TREASURE IT. YOU ARE AMAZING. MUMS KEEP THE HUMAN SPECIES IN EXISTENCE. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL XXXX
No I haven’t. I thought it would be me and the hubby growing old together and travelling. Now I’m a single Mum at 42. But I have come to love my life as it is!
Do balayage blonde and buy purple toning shampoo, you’ll get heaps longer between colours. Cut own hair if it is long, easy enough to do- get a crea clip (look it up on YouTube)
I love that the main thing she's concerned about when considering a big life change is her hair colour maintenance, lol. At least she's got a plan in mind and a hairdresser lined up.
Nothing's ever as we want always, things change so quickly, try to be grateful for what you have. Sounds like what's coming up is a new phase, at the end of that phase you'll have a qualification, job security and more money. Your kids will be older you'll have more time. Alternatively, stick to your casual job, study later when all kids are at school. I pushed myself too much when the kids were really young to get back to work full time & regretted it. Being a mum is full on and a proper job that takes lots of time & energy. Can't relate to being a young mum like you, but on the plus side at least you're not constrained by age to have your family. I would have had another if I had time. & a supportive husband sounds lovely. Luck you!
No. After a broken relationship of 10 years found myself alone age 30. Thought it was too late to have kids. I drifted around lost with no direction in my life until I met my now husband. We have 2 beautiful kids and life is good. Didn’t think I’d ever have a family or happiness.
Sometimes you need to sacrifice the short term for the long term. I think you can manage just cuts while you study.