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Can you celebrate him on another day?
No cake, just take him out for dinner and buy him a gift just because you love him.
Give him a fu****g awesome birthday.
Overwrite The shit memories with happy ones.
Keep loving him.
Show him how happy you are he was born.
As someone who has also had many many bad experiences on my birthday, he needs to find a way to move forward and make new, simpler traditions on his day.
For me, I only like celebrating with my children and husband.
The main reason for this is that my extended family have always let me down in one way or another. This year I'm turning 30 and people can't even understand why I'm not making a big fuss or why I'm not having a party... It's like people expect us to have all these celebrations planned for other people to enjoy, when really us birthday people don't want that at all.
Mu bad birthdays consisted of being cheated on, being dumped by best friends, being dumped by my family, being broken up with, best friends completely forgetting, being treated like shit, being left to celebrate alone after being disowned for two years.
All these huge things really diminish the day and it's taken me ten years and small steps to get back some enjoyment. So I get why he is the way he is. Just be kind and start off small, maybe an outing to a favourite spot and a picnic could help him on his birthday
It’s not your job to fix him. If you’re in a really good place, leave it. Don’t bother him with changing in a way he doesn’t want to. I hate birthdays and I don’t have any of his backstory, it would irritate me to have someone I should be celebrating it with them, because it would mean it wasn’t about me but them