Hugs to you ❤️ There is still time to make things happen. Might not feel like it but you can find ways. All the best xx

I wanted to catch up my life back which I lost of 10years due to dv, abusive relationship. I started uni again at 33 , secretly without telling my
husband or inlaws. They had no clue until first term past. And I make heaps of new friends, a new community at the University at the first week. Told my story and friends, lectures uni staff. They all helped me a lot to pass the
rough times. Two weeks ago I moved from husband's home to my own rental house near by uni. Plan is rent out Guest room to another uni student or two. Then, after next march I will be graduated.
Life is good now.
I did it.
I did it in a foreign country ( I am an Asian) without any help from family, not enough money, with looking after my 7 years old while part time working with little English.
I did it, so anyone can do it.
You can do it too.
Good luck..❤

^^ you are amazing ❤😘

Agree with other commenter. You are amazing and brave, be very proud of yourself!

That’s awesome! Well done.

Inspiring.

Do it. Use the example above and back yourself in. Take baby steps and pat yourself on the back for all the good stuff you’ve done, I’m sure there’s lots of good stuff.

Invest some time in you. You are worth it. You live this life just once, draw a line in the sand and do the rest of it your way love.

Holy hell lady. Kudos to you. You're still here to tell the tale 😘❤

Far out. You deserve a medal, and a rest!

Same here

I feel really sad reading this.
I have given up so much for my husband, he is controlling and verging on narcissistic. The one thing I have remained steadfast on since I was 18 is earning my very own income. This meant sacrificing time home w my babies so I could return to work to keep my job. My marriage may not be marvellous but I know if the crap hits the fan and I need to run, I’m financially very sound (through no help from him).

I really encourage you to do little things to help you get back a career, please do. Sending you love 💓

Same ...

Why...?

I was there...
Wasted 10 years of my life for a crappy marriage .
Years after found out my MIL and family was carefully manipulating me to get marry their son , even though I refused him at the first point and husband is nothing without those in laws . Such a lie, mother inlaw was there behind my every valentine gifts, birthday gifts, every dates, almost every phone call, which helped to maintain the long distance relationship for two years within two continents which led to the wedding. I even wonder now has she written valentine cards for me as after my wedding only I found both my husband and MIL has same letter writings. After found out, I decided to hang on and give my best for the sake of marriage. Years after, I am tired and left the marriage as there's no husband / a man without MIL.
He can sleep with her...

I agree. Beautiful supportive comments on this thread.

Good on you, I wish you all the very best.

We all do the best we can with what we have. Our first got strict discipline, no pets, childcare and fast food. Our last got lots of attention, a number of pets (others got them too at that stage), home mum care and nutritious meals. At the start I was just overwhelmed and had no idea. Unfair, but I gave the best I had at the time.

That’s right and I’m sure you are an awesome mum with heaps of amazing qualities and you’re kids were well looked after weather takeaway or home cooked at least they were eating ;) nothing wrong with that xx

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Beautiful responses ladies 💕

Same. For certain people anyway

Do something about it then

Ive been there. Please dont let this consume you. Hugs hun ♥️

...now I don't want to try anymore

*Giving

Can you hit government up for any of the cost?

They were not supportive or helpful at all, pretty happy to wash their hands of it because I had my own insurance.
Not the point. They do not give background history on the children, one who was this violent 7 year old who would punch and kick and even when I showed them bruises they would not provide counselling or support for the children or my family.
I'm lucky my own children were not hurt.

That’s really sad to be honest. Heaps of people think of fostering as ‘saving kids lives’ which you would have helped them through a rough patch, but I guess at the end of the day they have come from a not so good place so do bring baggage and you would probably never imagine what happened, happening to you and your family. I feel like advice and counselling should be given to families prior.

I could have written this!

Hugs ♥️