I was always a high achiever at school, my parents always pushed me to study hard and get top grades. I never got congratulated on getting 95% on a test, it was always why couldn't you have made it 100%. School was stressful, I didn't enjoy it. And even tho I did well, and got into the top university, I only stayed at university for a year, and only because it was expected of me to go to uni. I couldnt do it after a year. The pressure of having to excel all the time was just too much. I dropped out of uni, did a short course and worked in a trade for a few years, then I threw it all in, got married and started a family young and have been a steady at home mum for the last 7 years now.
I wish my parents hadn't put so much pressure on me to excell at school, because now I realize all that stress was for nothing. I could have just been an average student, or even gotten low grades, and still gotten to where I am in life. All those good grades didn't do me any favours, just made my younger years stressful. Good grades are not everything.

School is made out to be such a huge deal and we forget that these are just children. In my daughters school there was a strong culture of expected excellence and the belief among her peers that failing in school = failing in life and one of my girls had a successful suicide in her year as well as other attempted cases. This changed our mindset on the importance of grades and we encouraged her instead to enjoy the social aspect, respect the teachers, and be involved in external activities like sports, music, youth groups and family time. She received the lowest mark in her class academically, but she was not devastated over it and knew that we valued other qualities in her more highly than a grade. She is now in her 3rd year of commercial law.

I think it is more important to have a happy well adjusted child than one that just gets good grades. Make dure that if they feel like a failure at school, they can feel like a hero at home. When they discover what they love, the learning will come easily to them.

My kids hate school and academically suck. I've decided that I'll Just have to keep them all at home until I die and support them because they'll never get jobs lol

I always say to my friends if you’re worried about the job you’re doing you’re already a great parent.
You love them and care for them - thats a good parent xx

Theres different kinds of smart. I have a friend who is a successful business manager who failed maths. And I know engineers who couldn't do history. one subject does not dictate a whole career.
But the question is, is your child happy where they are or do they feel bad about it. Do they want to improve in that subject and if so, what can you do to help them?

Don’t stress just get a tutor in the subject/s they need. I had one in high school when I failed maths and went on to pass later. One on one tutoring can make a real difference.

My kids are all hopeless at sport like their mum lol and get very average marks too shy to do drama etc. When I'm with other parents sometimes I find they talk to me about their kids achievements not showing off but as if they think all kids are like that too! Then I feel like I've got nothing to put in and maybe I've failed my kids but then if I think about it I remember how good and kind they are and sensible too. I'm proud of them for being that and know they will find their niche

You really need to get rid of Facebook, it should be called wank book, it's like Hollywood, complete fantasy.

Highschool isn't for everyone, think outside the box and try something different. My husband's accounting teacher told my husband he needed to quit school and get a trade. My husband is now an accountant, and doing very well at it.

I didn't even go to past year 9 in highschool and If I did I'd probably fail, nevertheless I am the national manager of large retail company, reporting directly under the CEO and earn extremely well, I will step in to the CEO role eventually and make more money than my friends than my best friend, who is a pediatrician. My point isn't to brag about my job but to let you know that academics isn't everything, find your child's strengths and help them flourish. I would recommend steering him towards a trade or maybe he could look in to joining the army (you can also do a trade that way), there are a lot of options to still have a secure future even if you can't do algebra.

Also, if your social media makes you compare and feel stressed then shut it down for a while.

Try not to stress yourself out. My mum did this. I hated school, absolutely hated it. So I dropped out. Never did year 10 onwards. My mum wasn't pleased but she agreed and long as I did a hair dressing apprenticeship. I'm now 30 and own (yes own) a very successful hair salon, I have a waiting list of 12 weeks to get into my salon and let me tell you people wait! Maybe find out something that your children are passionate about and follow that instead? I would never be where I am now if I stayed in school.

What have you done wrong while parenting that did that? Was it really you who “failed” or is that just the sort of person he is? And if that is just the sort of person he is and you love him flaws and all is it really a failure?
He may not be academic, that’s fine. He may not be social, that’s fine. He will find what makes him happy and will work out life because he has a mother who loves him enough to be concerned about his downfalls. You just need to stop making it about you and see that he is the person he is and you love him.

OP, you sound like a wonderful parent and I am positive that you are. Perhaps find your childs strengths and interests and hone in on those.

Not everyone is academic or suited to school life. This has nothing to do with your parenting. Or even how intelligent your child is.

My mum does what you do, looks at other people because she thinks they have perfect lives. No one does! Everyone has their own struggles. Black sheep in the family. I’m always reminding my mum this, that sometimes you don’t know what people around you are going through. And comparing yourself, you family, your kids to others does you no good.