Insane spark with someone who is not my husband
Answered 5 months ago
I have never cheated and never would.
However, I have this intense spark feeling whenever a friend of ours is around, this feeling has been happening for years. He is also married, but he mentioned that he felt something between us when he was drunk.
Has this happened to anyone else? How do you ignore it?
Have an answer?
If you do not love your husband, then think of Spark’s wife. Put yourself in her position. Would you be happy if your spouse had sexy feelings for someone else, let alone a friend?
Are children involved? Are these children friends?
Now let that sit with you for a while and reflect.
If you cannot ignore your sexy feelings, get a vibrator!
But not in the cheating kind of way.
If you look at it like, you have a connection, it's OK for males and females to be friends, without any sexual benefits. But in that frame, be absolutely open with your husband and his wife.
Just do not let it go past friendship.
It's called being an adult and having friends.
The other guy well our timelines never lined up. We always joked about it. If he had a partner I didn’t and when I did he didn’t. We were always so drawn to each other and nothing has ever happened. When I ran into him a few years ago I just threw it out there and said maybe it’s just lust that we’ve felt all these years and if we ever did anything that’s where it would end. He said he believed differently and that we possibly could have been great but we will never know. (I’ve known him 16yrs)
Don’t worry we don’t talk or have an emotional relationship happening. We’ve only passed each other in the shops etc. it’s like we known we just can’t talk to each other. It is somewhat a bit painful and frustrating for us.
We’ve both got 2 kids each now and both have wonderful partners and I believe we are meant to be exactly where we are, but the unknown will always be there and I guess we are ok with that. Maybe there’s a reason we never lined up.
I’d say if you’re happy and settled, the spark may not die with this other guy, but make a choice and choose to let it go. If you can’t then you need to do the right thing and call off your current relationship. You need to acknowledge it may not all work out how you want it to.
Cheating is shit but In hindsight, myself and my ex husband are so much happier without each other.
We remained friends. Hubby knows. He is also married and his wife knows that we still chat every now and then over Facebook (we don't have each other's numbers) it's just chemistry I can't explain it. I was tempted a few years ago when hubby and I were almost going to seperate but we decided to work on our marriage and I am soooooo glad I didn't take it any further. He was also tempted, we spoke about it as his marriage was on the downfall aswell. Mine got better. His didn't. But I stopped contact like that as he was wanting more and I wasn't. Sorry for my ramble hahaha.