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Answered 4 years ago
last year for Christmas I got my partners niece a present (over $100) and SIL got my kids absolutely nothing... this year partner has said not to buy anything as he doesn’t see why we should put effort in when his sister won’t yet again. I still think we should at least get her something small as it’s not her fault that her mum is selfish. I guess what I am asking is should I just go out and get her something knowing that it has the potential to start a fight with OH or not buy anything and explain to SIL why I didn’t get anything?
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4 years ago
I would still get her a gift it's her Xmas too and she will expect it as u gifted her last year.
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4 years ago
$100 is a lot, I wouldn't spend that much unless it was discussed prior. We do $50 per niece/nephew but it is predetermined so nobody feels awkward that they spent less than the other.
Are we jumping to the conclusion that the SIL is selfish based on this situation because there are so many different reasons she may not have bought something and may well have been embarrassed about the situation.
I would buy something small for the niece, especially as she's probably remembering what you bought her last year and to go from $100 to $0 may make her think there is a change in your feelings towards her. At the end of the day Christmas is about family and it is nice to create magic for the children. I might suggest a small KK for the nieces/nephews or something so that your SIL has a heads up you are thinking about exchanging small gifts. This will give her the opportunity to discuss the gift exchange in low pressure way and you can find out her intentions.
Are we jumping to the conclusion that the SIL is selfish based on this situation because there are so many different reasons she may not have bought something and may well have been embarrassed about the situation.
I would buy something small for the niece, especially as she's probably remembering what you bought her last year and to go from $100 to $0 may make her think there is a change in your feelings towards her. At the end of the day Christmas is about family and it is nice to create magic for the children. I might suggest a small KK for the nieces/nephews or something so that your SIL has a heads up you are thinking about exchanging small gifts. This will give her the opportunity to discuss the gift exchange in low pressure way and you can find out her intentions.
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4 years ago
This is why Xmas is ridiculous! If you want to buy her a small gift, go ahead!
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4 years ago
Is she close with you and her uncle? Maybe some coupons for movie night at your place and that sort of thing? Doesn’t cost money but tells her you guys want to spend time with her?
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4 years ago
If anything I'd just get one of those stockings with chocolates in them. They are cheap, but kids always love them cause hey, it's chocolate!