Where are the single mothers ?
Answered 10 months ago
Just saying hi. Tell me about your situation, how you are coping, and if you date.
I feel so isolated and alone. I am the only single parent in my friendship groups, and my ex husband is a nightmare who believes he’s father of the year from his maybe 5 hours a week he visits our child. They have a terrible relationship, I used to try and help them but now I stay out of it and the psychologist handles the ex. He verbally will attack me, last week it was about me wearing a mask at work, this happens every Sunday he visits to see our child, so now my parents come over to be a buffer so he’ll behave. I am sad about this. I’ve tried everything. It all triggers him. I thought divorce would protect me from this.
I have tried dating, but I only had one night a week to date at that stage. Found the online apps to be an enormous waste of time.
I now have legal full custody, so focused on my health, career and child. Those are going great. But now I’m deeply lonely. It’s been 4 years and I haven’t even had a boyfriend since my divorce.
Please tell me that I’m not the only one out there living the full time mum life, as well as working and doing it all solo. I’m starting to wake with a racing heart because each day is so so busy. Even in lockdown. I never stop.
I guess this is me feeling pretty miserable, and wanting to know this shall pass. Always does right?😅😉
I’m meditating on gratitude which helps. That I am mostly free from my abusive marriage. That my child’s going so well. Work is steady in a time when many are suffering. We have food on the table and a safe home to live in.
Suppose it being Sunday just has me nervous about what will happen !
Have an answer?
I begun dating when she was about 18, met fell in love and had a baby and was widowed in pregnancy. My boy is 7 now and I haven’t dated.
I just don’t feel like dispersing my energy.
My kid gets my whole energy and I get what’s left for me.
IMO they both had enough going on then having a mum who was also off trying to have company.
I can’t answer to the lonely cos iv never felt lonely by myself.
Companions have never been needed for me. I’m what people would say an extra very, I’m talkative , friendly, I work with kids, but iv also just always been happy alone too.
Also, (I know this isn’t everyone so hope no one crucify me for this) BUT if I were to date I felt like it never could have gone anywhere, I would have never moved them in while my children were living and a younger age because I feel like that’s not my risk to take exposing them to a bad person.
But in terms of the loneliness , why aren’t you happy alone? Perhaps if you can find the answer to that it would help with the loneliness.
Maybe you just need some solid friendships?
Or not. Lol just thoughts :)