I have never liked my mother in law but coexist to keep the peace.

However ever since we had our kids her behaviour around them has been a sore point Between my husband and I. I hate the fact that she is racist and homophobic and pushes her opinions down your throat. She had one of her small minded rants around the kids when they were old enough to start understanding what she was saying and I quickly made it clear that I wouldn’t put up with that talk.

For the past year she has pulled her head in and towing the line until this weekend. We picked the kids up after she finally convinced us to let her babysit. and she asked me did the kids ever see me get undressed which I said no as they are getting older.

Then she laughs and tells my husband and I that she undressed in front of them to have a shower and they were confused and my son touched her chest. I spat out my coffee and said ‘what the f@#k’ and told her this was completely inappropriate and my husband backed me.

She didn’t what the big problem was as she was open with nudity around her children etc, my husband and I have been in an awkward silence since this occurred.

I have told him that under no circumstances is she to be around them alone.

I am unsure what to do as I find her completely toxic and don’t her in our lives, however on the other hand don’t want to cause a huge family rift as my husband dad is very unwell and he loves his dad dearly :-(