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Inappropriate behaviour by mother in law

Answered 10 months ago

I have never liked my mother in law but coexist to keep the peace.

However ever since we had our kids her behaviour around them has been a sore point Between my husband and I. I hate the fact that she is racist and homophobic and pushes her opinions down your throat. She had one of her small minded rants around the kids when they were old enough to start understanding what she was saying and I quickly made it clear that I wouldn’t put up with that talk.

For the past year she has pulled her head in and towing the line until this weekend. We picked the kids up after she finally convinced us to let her babysit. and she asked me did the kids ever see me get undressed which I said no as they are getting older.

Then she laughs and tells my husband and I that she undressed in front of them to have a shower and they were confused and my son touched her chest. I spat out my coffee and said ‘what the [email protected]#k’ and told her this was completely inappropriate and my husband backed me.

She didn’t what the big problem was as she was open with nudity around her children etc, my husband and I have been in an awkward silence since this occurred.

I have told him that under no circumstances is she to be around them alone.

I am unsure what to do as I find her completely toxic and don’t her in our lives, however on the other hand don’t want to cause a huge family rift as my husband dad is very unwell and he loves his dad dearly :-(


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10 months ago
I walk around naked in front of my kids all the time... Butttttt if l was watching someone else's kids and did it, that's totally inappropriate.
I think you need to speak to your husband about how you can separate yourself from having anything to do with her while supporting him to see if dad and family. But making it clear how you shouldn't have to put up that much insanity. You tried and it didn't work out lol

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10 months ago
Walking around naked in feont of your kids is unacceptable and someone should be rwprting you to cps. Disguasting behaviour. Be naked in your room NOT infront of kids. Sick!

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11 months ago
How old are you kids?

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11 months ago
Just turned 5

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11 months ago
Was she aware of your stance on getting undressed in front of the kids before this happened? I have a toxic MIL so I get everything else you have said. But unless she was aware of your feelings on this, all you can do is tell her that in the future dressing and undressing is a private thing and not to be done in front of the children.

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11 months ago
She is well aware. When I started seeing my husband she came out to the kitchen one day completely topless still getting dressed from a shower and I told her although I am not a prude I was very uncomfortable with that.

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11 months ago
Yes but what about in front of the kids? My mother would never do that but she has no issue dressing in front of my kids. I’m ok with that so long as my kids are. But walking around the house half naked, no.