Loveless, sexless marriage! How do you even decide for sure you are ready to divorce? How do you initiate it? Has anyone been in the same situation as me? :(

I have been married for nine years with two beautiful kids. My husband and I used to live reasonably good lives and then we became strangers. We don’t talk, kiss, hug. We dont say good morning good night good bye. We don’t do anything together at all. I play with the kids he sits in the bedroom. We haven’t slept together in a year. The other day I tried to hug him (give him a deep hug) and he just stood there like a rock. I asked can’t I have a hug and he patted me on the back. I can’t blame him. If there’s nothin there it’s difficult to give a meaningful hug. I feel myself fantasizing about life without him. We have talked about this several times and nothing comes of it. I don’t want to get to 50 and think I just wasted 50 years of my life. I have mentioned before about wanting divorce and he sweet talks me out of it and then goes a bit harder “I don’t want to see my kids with another man in their life”.

How do you go about initiating a divorce conversation and actually moving forward eg moving out when someone is reluctant to go there? How do you even know that’s the right decision?

I read somewhere you are never confused, you just don’t want to accept the answers and this always repeats in my mind.