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I’ve been separated for almost 2 years! Ex is a child and we basically have no contact! I asked him to ring me Monday concerning the health of one of our children, which he did!
I then msg next day and asked if he would like the gas heater we used to have in our old house. Nothing, not even a simple no!! Makes me furious. Should I msg again or just take it as a no and sell it?


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2 years ago
You are blessed to have an ex like this, mine had news our 3 year old was being tested for Leukaemia, stole $3000 off me then vanished for 12 months, turned up a week ago, said he would give that money back to me, just stole another $3500.

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2 years ago
How did you allow him to steal the second 3500?? OK the first time you wouldn't have seen it coming, but the second?

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2 years ago
He got $10000 from his super and assured me he would give me $5500 - $3000 to pay back what he stole last time, and the other $2500 on his $25000 unpaid child support bill.

He gave me $2000

He is out of our lives again, this time forever. And we are all soooooo happy!

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2 years ago
Honestly I wouldn't have even bothered asking if he hadn't taken it back when everything happened. And don't get upset over no reply, it's lazy yes but not nasty. Just take it as a no. Just communicate about the kids from now on and keep it at that.

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2 years ago
Get over yourself babe. You're hurt because you're ex didn't get back to you about a heater. Just sell it. If he wants one he knows where the shop is

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2 years ago
Don't worry, it just sell the heater and anything else that belongs to him.
I tried to stay civil with my ex, I sent text messages about the kids. Stuff like if they were sick, got an award at school, if there was something on at school he might like to attend. I usually got ignored then told to please give him space. I don't text him at all now so he misses school events, doesn't know if they are sick. If the kids have something on he only finds out from the child when he picks them up. Now he gets annoyed that I don't tell him anything.

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2 years ago
Maybe he just wants nothing to do with you??
If he did ring regarding health of the child, that's great, but maybe he personally doesn't even want you sending him any texts?
Sometimes when you breakup, people just want to get you out of their lives. Hurts but it's the way it is

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2 years ago
I would do the same if I didn't really want to talk to someone. Sorry

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2 years ago
Awkward... i think its clear he doesn't want you to keep contacting him unless it's pertaining to your children is all, that's not nasty.

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2 years ago
Yeah I have to agree. I think you have got confused between who is the child here and I don’t mean that in a mean way. Obviously there is much more to the story, but from just what you have written, you called him,he called you back and then you try make more contact, and then thinking about more in response to nothing. Just because you make contact don’t start trying to attach strings to the relationship- you left it for a reason

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2 years ago
Thats what Im getting out of it. However if she offered him a heater he should just send a quick no thank you text. Unless OP messages him constantly and isnt getting the hint? But she said theres virtually no contact so I doubt it.

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2 years ago
Oh that’s not nasty. It’s a heater, sell it. It’s been two years if he wanted it he would have it by now, there’s been a few winters in the last two years. Are you feeling lonely and possibly looking for reasons to message him? I used to miss having someone around to support me when my little ones were unwell. It’s tiring looking after unwell kids. I found it hard being at the hospital , sleeping there myself knowing my other child was missing us, worrying about my unwell child and just wanting a hug myself.
❤️❤️❤️

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2 years ago
Maybe he left his phone in the car or left it on silent after a doctors appointment like I always do. If he’s being a jerk, stop contacting him unless it has to do with the kids. Sell the heater.

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2 years ago
You're pissed over a gas heater??? He rang about the child's health. Get over I

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2 years ago
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2 years ago
Unfortunately not every One can be civil after separating, and you try to be considerate but I think in your case you shouldn’t bother and if he kicks up a stink at least you can say you tried

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2 years ago
I wouldn’t say that’s nasty. I’d say that means he doesn’t want it. Sell it and move on without
Creating drama where there’s none.