Send the husband and kids to dog training with the dog.

You know there was a stage when I wanted a dog but we got a cat instead. She became queen bee of the house and the kids wouldn’t let me get a dog. I’m really happy now because she is very lovable and I think dogs are too needy.

The vet can give you tips to help the dog settle. Sit your family down and tell them if they don't take care of the dog you are going to rehome it.

You guys have some serious communication issues

I don't have any real advice. We all love our dog, hes actually pretty awesome, very well behaved and obedient but he has MAJOR fomo and seperation anxiety. We just take him with us everywhere we can. He doesn't scream or cry but he does like to be touching us and constantly follows us around the house. Follows us out of a room, waits outside the toilet doir etc. If we tell him he can't come he gets so sad and sulks. We have 3 cars, if we all leave in 1 particular car, he thinks we've left him to go on holidays, escapes and goes to my sisters down the road so we have to take one of the other cars if we aren't taking him! A friend has a mi iture daschound and it barks and screams constantly too. Im an animal and dog lover, but some animals can just be pretty unlikeable.....

For starters your family wanted the dog so feeding, cleaning up and entertaining it should be there responsibility, with supervision for kids. It is a good teaching tool on being responsible. Secondly gwt s ome good dog training to nip the toileting in the butt in the house! You probably resent the fact that you have to do everything for the dog and the dog symbolises more work for you so take that work and give it to those who wanted the dog that way you can work on your bond once the pressure for everything is off you.

It sounds to me like your dog thinks it’s top dog I.e, leader of the pack. She needs to know that she isn’t the leader and that you, your husband and the kids are. I would definitely recommended seeing a dog psychologist to give you some tricks to help re establish the order in the house. The barking, whinging, soiling when left alone are signs of her trying to control you. There may be anxiety as well but when you said she is spoilt and treated like a queen it made me think that this dog does not understand her place in the family.

Put the responsibility back on those in the family who wanted it. Poor pup. Needs some good training too but if no one in the family is going to invest the time and energy to train, care and love, which it deserves, then look at finding a loving home. The breeder you got it from may be able to help

This is my fear about getting a dog

I can relate to this, I am a huge animal lover but honestly secretly hated our family dog for the first 3 years, she was a nightmare, and I was the one at the brunt of the dog care, all the training, feeding, walking, mess etc etc etc fell on me, the one who thought getting a dog was a bad idea.. because kids 🙄🙄🙄 and husband 🙄🙄🙄..

I almost rehomed her so many times but she has really finally grown on me now and I can say we have definitely bonded and I love her.

I suggest putting in the hard yards and training her exactly as you want- all those problems you mentioned can be sorted! I used treats and YouTube videos.

Clearly the dog is unhappy. Dogs are sensitive, she probably senses you don’t like her. Does she get walked? Does she get attention from her humans? Does she have chew toys? If you said yes to everything, I suggest some kind of intervention... training or a dog behaviouralist. (They sorted out my mum’s dog’s separation anxiety).

Get rid of the dog, free yourself from all that crap.