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Help! My girls are the mean girls. What strategies can I try?

Answered 2 years ago

They will not compromise at all and will say, fine I’ll play by myself. If they aren’t in control of the play they withdraw and play alone. I am really upset that I now have unkind children. My oldest son is not like this at all. The girls are 4 and 8


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2 years ago
Mean girls are teenagers not 4 and 8 year olds, they sound pretty normal to me... Id hesitate before you label them.

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2 years ago
Normal in what way? There are certainly mean girls at this age, but I’d say the younger one is copying the older one. 7year old was playing like this and it was so nasty, of my child was like that I’d leave the playground even after 5mins. Please your kids and not distracted chatting or on the phone, they need you

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2 years ago
There are absolutely little cows at that age and when you see their silly mothers laugh it off, you understand why some people grown up to be sociopaths. Teach them young not to be morons.

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2 years ago
My 6 year old just scoffs at the mean girls at her school and walks off 💪 I wouldn’t baby your kids’ attitudes. When they’re speaking too grown up or being rude, mean, bossy, whatever.. deal with them there and then and ask them why they shouldn’t be doing that. The problems I see with most parents now is the whole ‘let kids be kids’ mentality. I’ve had many an argument with mums who ‘let their kid be kids’ so they let the little shits push the little ones around the playground.

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2 years ago
They are 4 and 8 ! Read a child development book, this is normal behaviour, they are learning, also its important they can play alone and enjoy their own company. Just let them be kids.

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2 years ago
There is nothing wrong with giving them time to play by themselves. As much as is necessary until they WANT to play with others. Socialising is a reward and those that cannot play nicely with others need some more alone time to get their head right. You can’t make them play nice, but you can certainly remove play options until they are ready to try.

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2 years ago
Yes dont let them play with others if they dont play nice. Don’t subject other kids to their meaness. Keep them away from other kids until they learn.

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2 years ago
Whenever my kids get mean I try and reverse it to see how they like it. Like if they not let anyone else decide what to play I make them not be able to decide what to play. Bossy kids are the future decision makers but it's important to teach them how to be fair.

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2 years ago
It's in their best interest to learn to compromise and play fair, overly dominant people make terrible managers, so it's unlikely they will be future leaders.

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2 years ago
The point of reversing treatment is so they learn what it's like to be on the receiving end of nasty behaviour. Bossy kids very often turn into assertive adults who do make great leaders. It's just a matter of guiding them.

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2 years ago
It's just something that some kids do, my daughter has struggled with being dominant and dominated by other kids in play. They will learn not to over time as other kids won't play with them.
During play dates if this happens I let my daughter miss out on play for a while.