We are told over and over that we have to read to our children every night. Am I the only one who doesn't? What is it th
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We are told over and over that we have to read to our children every night. Am I the only one who doesn't? What is it that stops us doing this when we know it is the 'right thing' to do?
No books at home5%
I find reading aloud really stressful2%
There are so many other jobs to do at home41%
I am too tired at night to read41%
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I'm exhausted at the end of the day. I have 4 kids that can't agree on a book, and won't sit still while I read the one I decide on (or who's ever turn it is to pick). I still have loads to do when they finally get to bed. And frankly, sometimes I get so sick of always doing the "right" thing. Sometimes I just want to kick back, put my feet up and chill.
Which is why I rarely read to my children. I do occasionally, but it's more not than yes.
Sorry if this sounds snappy, but my own mother (who was neglectful for most of my childhood) just recently chipped me about this. Because she used to read to me when I was 5 and under.
It really got me riled up.
I'm well aware of what my responsibilities are in regards to my children and home, thank you for your opinion on the matter.
You think they're missing out on some big integral part of growing up if I don't read to them every night?
I read your response shortly after you posted them, and took some time to step back and not immediately get offended. I hope you can grant me the same courtesy. So, I ask you this, would you recommend instead of us snuggling up on the couch of an evening and talking about our day and what we hope tomorrow brings, that we rather snuggle up and read a book? It feels to me like our current routine focuses on their emotional development, but neglects their educational one.
I'm open to hear suggestions on how we can change up the structure of our afternoons to include both. Currently I have trouble finding more time unless I keep them up later (which I prefer not to for so many reasons).
The younger two read to me and do their homework at the table whilst I cook dinner. The older ones do their homework in their room.
I slack on so many things.
But reading to your kids is a bit like feeding them
Like it’s bare minimum parenting.
And I say that in the most sincere non assholey way.
The nights are long but the years are oh so fast. And almost every child not only loves to be read to, but it really shapes their literacy.
I say this as a mum who’s slack on homework. Terrible with readers. Dread that 3 minutes every day where I have to brush their teeth, and honestly chop up salad 9/10 rather than cook a meal.
I skip baths cos sometimes I just can’t be arsed and want them in bed by 6.
But I always find time for even just a few pages.
Maybe it’s me and my own opinions I get that.
And I know many others would judge my shortcomings.
But it’s just a few minutes sometimes for a wealth of reward.
Unfortunately, it turned out to be autism. I'm just thankful he got the above average intelligence trait rather than below average so he'll be independent & live a normal life. Everything else we can help with therapy. In the end that's all we care about.
Enough of the selfish parenting ladies!!!!!
Well yeah 1% might but it’s not the case majority of the time lol.
Do I? Not every night, but most. Does it make a difference? Yes. It's about extending vocabulary and literacy.
Most important is teaching your kids the importance of lifelong learning, rather than just reading to them. If a parent doesn't show interest, the child doesn't see why they should either. There are studies that back this up, but I see the the difference between my kids and a friend's. Same ages, primary school & kindy. Mine are advanced or on par. Hers are in remedial classes and way behind, because 'education is the school's problem'. It bugs me because she ranted about the school failing her children, but she won't engage at all with her kids learning. Teachers can't teach successfully without parents' support.
I get there are people who don’t enjoy reading. Have you tried just looking at picture books? Don’t read the story, just look at the pictures and talk about what’s going on in them what can you see? What do you think is happening? What do you think will happen next? The Graeme Base books are great for this.
Reading to your child isn’t just about “reading”, it about getting them to understand the story , what’s happened and why. What will happen. Teachers can tell which children are read to regularly and which aren’t. Those that aren’t read to really do struggle.
It really is worth the investment in time. Maybe not every night but try for 2-3 times a week and build up from there.
Does this make you feel old too?
Now at 8 they read chapter books , Tom gates are hilarious.
They have always been ahead of reading at school.
I believe it has helped them heaps.